Let me start by asking you a question, what is something that you think is very worse that you even fear to encounter? Is it HIV/AIDS, cancer or disabilities, poverty, being alone? Keep the answer with yourself and use it to read this article.

It has been a while without brain motives, I am sorry I was busy as a bee. In this world most people fear poverty even though most of them live in that condition, poverty. I am among the people who fear poverty, so thanks to that reason I was also very busy in last 10 days as you always are.

Was your answer poverty? I know there are some who got that answer. In this world the majority are running after success including you who is reading this article. Unfortunately few people really achieve the highest level of success, you can ask yourself why, which is not our topic today.

How do you define success? Is it when you have a lot money, houses, power, happiness...? Let's look at its definition.

✔ Success is the achievement of a high position in a particular field, for example in business or politics.
✔ There are other people who say that the highest level of success is happiness.

They are all correct, success is high achievement and it becomes better when you're happy with what you have achieved as most people believe.

I don't know what success will mean when happiness is not around. Let's go to our topic today, secrets for a very happy life.

I'll use the philosophy of 2 people:

1. Dale Carnegie who was an American writer, lecturer and the developer of famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills.
2. Sam Berns who was the kid born with progeria (a rare genetic condition that causes a child's body to age fast. Most kids with progeria do not live past age 13) but who is known to have a very happy life. What is his philosophy to be happy? We will see that.

Dale Carnegie's 8 ways to lead a happy and worry-free life:

1. To be happy, think happy

People say money can't buy happiness, yes I agree. But do friends bring happiness? My answer will be "not always". Does praying bring happiness? My answer still "not always".

So before judging money because for you it's hard to find, remember that nothing is there to bring happiness, whether you have money or not, friends or none, happiness comes from within. It took Dale 50 years to learn this.

Dale Carnegie concluded that

It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.

We mostly look to partners, spouse, best friends or money for happiness but it seems like we search happiness in wrong places. Happiness comes from how we look life. It doesn't come from external conditions rather, what we say to ourselves the moment we wake up, the moment before we go to sleep, and everything in between.

So with money or without money you can be happy if you think happy, same with best friends or without them.

2. Be like birds and horses

These animals are not unhappy, do you know why? They don't strive to impress their colleagues. Most people live a life of impressing others by exaggerating their achievements, by telling or showing people how great they are.

Great satisfaction and happy life will come when you impress yourself on how great you have achieved or how great you are.

3. Replace the need to be right with empathy for others

At this point we most people fail because of our need to be important.

People are not creatures of logic they are creatures of emotions, so by your ways to prove that you're right, you may provoke their emotions which can lead to being harmed back by either their words or actions.
Dale concluded that

When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.

4. You live but one life, make it fun

You will make this piece of life fun by doing what you like, the job or business you like. Don't ever push yourself to stay in that job that you don't like unless you're trying hard to gather means to join your passion from that job.

Dale Carnegie

People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.

5. Take action to address those things in your life that are worrying you

Worrying about the things that you're not in a position to solve will only keep you unhappy, avoid. Sometimes you have to let it go, be, happen, or stay....

Dale Carnegie

Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.

6. Replace future regret with daring moves today

Don't focus on what you haven't done in the past, that will only keep you blaming yourself, making yourself unhappy. Don't you love yourself? Then don't criticize yourself for what you have not done or done wrong instead what you're not doing only for change purposes.

Dale Carnegie

Take a chance! All life is a chance. The person who goes farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare.

7. We become happier when we are not in judgement of others

In this journey we work hard and harder, make a lot of mistakes before we get an end product. Imagine if people were judging you at your first step on doing something! It's hard but let's train ourselves to do not judge others if we really need a happy life.

Dale Carnegie

Even God doesn't propose to judge a man till his last days, why should you and I?

8. Be yourself

This the great point to be happy. Though most people use it in a wrong way, trying to be yourself by harming others will only bring temporary happiness. Be yourself by doing what is right at the same time which enjoys you. Don't try to be yourself by being selfish or unconcern. Be right, just and reasonable.

Dale Carnegie

Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation, for your character is what you are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.

Let's come to our lovely Sam with his 3 aspects for a happy life. I tried to gather everything with subtitles in the following short video. Watch it.

Sam though he had progeria, he tried to think happy. Circumstances didn't wanted him to be happy but he chose to be happy until his death.

1. Be OK with ultimately what you can't do, because there is so much you CAN do

Sam had nothing to do with his disease so he chose to be OK with it, not because it is something that makes him proud but because he can't do anything except to accept. Instead of focusing on what you can't do, keep yourself happy by doing what you can.

2. Surround yourself with people you want to be around

Do you sometimes find yourself in a crowd of people who don't value you? If that's the case "Log out my friend." It's okay to be with few people but who encourage you, motivate you, understand and value your presence.

3. Keep moving forward

We are in a world with ups and downs. So don't get stucked on what keep you down just move forward and meet what will level you up. Simply always get the courage to keep going no matter how hard and tiresome the journey is.

To conclude, with or without money, with or without best friends, with or without material things you can be happy or unhappy. It all depends on what you choose to think.
Make money, friends, do what is right only remember that even without all of that you can still choose to be happy.

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Article by Jado

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