I have no mechanisms to propose that can guarantee utopia, such's mechanisms don't exist.
mechanisms to create utopias always create distopias

Yes we are programmed we grow up in a cult, but it's not so that you can not get out of that cult and see it for the susperstition/religion that it is. You can believe in (because you may be programmed to believe in) santa claus just as easy as you can believe in katholosism, scientology, statism, respect for the elders. But just as you can see that santa claus is a myth. you can see that the other crap is a myth too. Once you've seen it you can't go back. Why would you teach children to have respect for the elders parents chieftains (when there might be nothing respectable about them) just because they are called "elders parents chieftains"? I don't respect people because of their title. I only respect people who are non violent and for as long as they are that way.