Why I Want to Marry Doug
September 16, 2000
Why I want to marry Doug!!!!
Doug is the sweetest, gentlest man I’ve ever met. Doug is a trus romantic, he always takes the time to pause and let me know how much he loves me. Sometimes a song will come on the radio, and he drops everything to dance with me. Doug took a picture I had of me, without my knowing it and put it on his desk.
Dougis a true gentleman, he holds doors, and is always respectful of people. Doug has a wonderful sense of compassion and has a great ability to put himself in someone else's shoes. I just love that!
Doug makes my soul sing, he sets it free! I have a very impulsive, independent and free spirit. Doug is never, ever threatened by my spirit, or what may be considered aggressive behavior for a woman. He supports me in my work and never thinks of me as less than his equal.
Doug likes to play with me more than anyone else. He always wants me included in anything he does.
I love working with Doug, he is so smart, he always answers questions directly and is never condescending. Doug is very respected as an authority in his field, but he never gets a big head over anything.
Doug has a wonderful sense of humour! Doug whispers jokes to people and makes them feel special. Doug can always make me laugh in a tense situation. Doug has a very calming nature, he rarely gets stressed out , or as my Dad says “twerps out”.
Doug lets me be me, however goofy and silly I get , he still thinks I am funny. I love that Doug loves my rock collection and always wants to help me find new cool rocks.
Doug has an adventurous spirit, he loves the outdoors, going to new places and seeing new things. I love that Doug has so many diverse interests, and he’ll try anything.
Doug is so confident. If there is something important to him or if there is something wrong and needs to be righted, he takes charge. The first time Doug and I really had a chance to talk , we talked four hours straight. We had so many dreams, goals, and favorite things to do in common. Before we ever went out on a date, Doug said to me “I am moving to California” and I said “I am too!”, and we both really meant it!
The next week Doug asked me to go with him to our company’s Christmas dinner. I was really surprised because we worked together at the same company, the Christmas dinner was more than a month away and it seemed like quite a commitment since we hadn’t even gone on a date yet! I felt like Cinderella being swept away by her prince. Ever since that day we have been at each other’s side, there has never been a moment when I have not wanted to live the rest of my life with my Dougie!
Divorce-Induced Insanity - A case Study of an American Housewife
Foreword – Krissy Smith’s Book
By Walter White
1988 was the year Krissy and I both enrolled into a small, private Liberal Arts University in Central Pennsylvania. We both lived in the same Freshman Residence Hall and while we did not initially become fast-friends, we shared similar acquaintances and by and large participated in the same social scene. What struck me at first about Krissy, was her independent spirit and fearless attitude on campus. She was free to speak her mind and conduct herself on her terms, not necessarily what would “work” on a small, private school campus.
2 symbols of Krissy’s independent essence at school were her red scooter and her high school team jacket. The scooter was an instant hit, as Freshmen were not allowed to own/park automobiles on school property. The jacket, was not. The jacket is an important point because of the clique mentality and “coolness” factor that undergraduate females were expected to absorb. Krissy did not – and continued to wear her jacket as if nothing was out of place.
Being considered “in place” was never Krissy’s motive or within her DNA. The scooter represented her solution to a transportation problem; the jacket represented her independence. Over the course of our education, I became to know Krissy as a person – friendly, fiercely loyal and true to her nature. While Krissy never exhibited any sort of dangerous or threatening behavior at school, she was not a wallflower. Those who know her best should be aware that convention and outdated expectations are not in Krissy’s repertoire.
As we both have grown and made bigger and more adult decisions in our lives, we have remained on good terms – not best friends, but we’ve both shared similar experiences. Mental health and a person’s overall well-being should not be dictated by a prescription pad or an outsider’s quick evaluation of one’s behavior and thought processes. Possessing an intelligent and energetic personality should never be confused with mania or illness – as these are the character traits that most of society values. The issue is when an individual’s thought process and wants/needs in life are challenged by a conventional set of double-standards against women.
I’m sure Krissy will elaborate further in her story and I’m anxious for her friends and family to try to remember not only the “good times” but Krissy’s overall abilities and character traits that have led to her place in life now. There are certainly other viewpoints that may not have been able to be expressed on Krissy’s behalf until now.
In kindness,
W. W.