MARRIAGE FOR LIFE OR CONTRACT MARRIAGE

Hello wonderful Steemians, it is such a good day to also join the wonderful writers to share my thought on marriage and to also learn from others. Permit me to also share my little cent.

Firstly, permit me to define marriage on my own perception, I define marriage to be a union between two or more people involving the opposite gender who are intentional of spending the remaining days of their life with eachother. Please, allow me to break what I just said down, for two people of the opposite gender (man and woman) to come together in agreement to be with eachother in a union that they share literally everything with one another, they have to be really intentional of their decision, hence such agreement.

So, the statement "for better for worse till death do us part", is often said during the conjugal bliss, where the priest will ask the people involved to pledge their allegiance to eachother on the alter or wherever the ceremony takes place. This statement alone is not just limited to when natural death visits one partner or both, it is a generic statement that also involves "if whatever we had with eachother dies", in other words, it means, if the bond we shared dies or start falling off, this will be our end in this union. Marriage was not meant to be a prison caging two adults together even when they are no longer interested in it, it was a union that two intentional people went into, and if life choses to happen, then they can get to let it go without hurting eachother. No one should be caged using the name marriage.

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Also, you will agree with me that sometimes, people do make mistakes for some reasons, on the other hand, people are also cajoled to get married to their partners because of what the family are benefiting from the other partner, so at this point, if whatever the partner that was cajoled to marry the benefactor happens to see someone who his or her heart melts for and decides to make a move, he or she is at liberty to go, this is when the "for better and for worse" comes to play, it dosent mean people should be caged, if the better and the worse happens and they feel they should leave so their sanity will not be at stake, they are at liberty to do so.

Firstly, I will go for marriage for life, reason being that, I am intentional about who I want to spend the rest of my life with. But if things go south, we can always go our separate ways because at the end of everything our happiness is paramount. Though nobody do pray for marriage to go sour, but when life happens, we are always left with so many options, I have seen alot of people commiting suicide, ending their lives untimely because of marriage, if they were informed of how to go about this, the mortality rate would've had a downward surge over time. Also, chosing marriage for life is my personal decision and should not influence anyother person's decision towards marriage because each and everyone of us have one or two thing to achieve from marriage.

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YES, I do agree that housework should not be a role attached to a particular gender because; couples were meant to be helpmates and not housemates, they were meant to strengthen eachother when they are weak, cooking for instance should not just be for the female partner, the man should also take a bigger role in doing so. Washing dishes and cleaning the house should as well be shared by both partner. If both partners shares home taxes, possibility of eachother living long is on the high side. But in a situation where one person has to do everything by his or herself, stress might set in resulting to stroke. Let us remember again that couples were meant to be help mate not housemaids.

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As a specialist in this field, I will share ten things to note we should look at to in marriage.

• Be sure of who you want to spend the rest of your life with.

• State clearly to your proposed partner what you wish to achieve from the marriage you are about getting into.

• Be intentional about your decision towards marriage, don't let anyone tell you who to marry and who no to.

• You are the architect of your happiness, marriage should not be an arena of sadness, talk things out with your partner when things are not going as planned.

• Don't be in a rush to get married, take time and really understand what you are about to get into.

• Chose the type of marriage that best suit your personality and make sure you stick to your decision.

• Marriage are for matured people; matured in mind, thought and finances.

• Marriage involves caring for one another, you need to learn and master the act of caring for others before venturing into it.

• Learn to manage the stress that will come with it, it has loads of mental, psychological and physical stress, you have to be able to manage them so you don't loose yourself.

• Lastly but not the least, if it doesn't work out, it is okay to walk away but be sure you do all you can to keep it before walking away.

With this, I hope we all learn a thing or two from this.

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