Contest!! Contest!! Toxic Relationships

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What is your understanding of a toxic relationship? Give some examples.
Relationship is one of the key or important type of association an individual may have found themselves in. That’s being in one at the right time. There a lot of both positive and negative merits when it comes to having a relationship. Which is why i suggest that we go into one when we are ready for the negative merits of relationship isn’t something easy to bear with. Actually being in a relationship is fun and nice.


But in the case of a toxic relationship, it isn’t like that at all. I will now like to explain to you my understanding of what a toxic relationship is.
A toxic relationship is a relationship that makes either one of the partners to feel attacked or uncomfortable by the behavior the other partner is showing or portraying towards the other partner. In a toxic relationship, one’s wellbeing is being endangered due to the psychological trauma they go through.
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Below are some examples of toxic relationships

  • There is the abusive kind of toxic relationship. With this kind of toxic relationship, one of the partner in the relationship continuously and intentionally does something which keeps on hurting the other partner. There by rendering them not to be feeling ok in the relationship.

  • The behavior of constant cheating. This is one of the factors that contributes to a toxic relationship. With this one in specific, one of the partner is always found or caught cheating but he or she has not made up their mind to either desist from that act. There by causing harm to the other partner.

  • Over reliant type of toxic relationship is also one in which one of the partners tries to be reluctant and dependent on the other partner for support at whatever cost. The reluctant partner wants the other partner to be supporting them in everything and they have not made up their mind to strive or do something for themselves.

Have you or any close friend ever been in a toxic relationship? Share your experiences.
In my part of the world, most people do find themselves in the over reluctant type of toxic relationship. Which mainly due to some specific factors. The causes of such reluctance in most of the relationship is basically from how the other gender thinks. It also mostly the female gender who are mostly found to be reluctant.



This is because most of them have the perception that it is the male who is supposed to take care of her even though they are not officially married or engaged. Since the male gender has approached them and then finally expressing their feelings towards them. Then they try to burden them with alll their problems.



Which is not the right thing at all. By totally being reluctant, that’s from the female side it renders the male gender to be in full control and sometimes treats the female gender badly. They tend to be looking themselves more superior to them since they are the ones taking care of you. This is actually one of the types of toxic relationship i have been witnessing here day in day out.

What are some Coping strategies for victims of a toxic relationship?
This will actually be based on the type of toxic relationship one has found themselves in. As a matter of fact i will be explaining or suggesting some few lines which can be very useful to the victims of a toxic relationship. There is the need for any individual in a relationship to know and realize that you have your own responsibilities in the relationship and for that, you shouldn’t try to over burden your self with the other person’s responsibilities.



By doing so, you will get to recognize if the other individual isn’t doing what they are expected to do as their responsibilities there by trying to blame or accuse you of not performing your part in the relationship. There by attacking or accusing in a very toxic manner. You can then try to draw their attention to what they are supposed to do and it isn’t your responsibility.

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There is the need for one to be constantly checking themselves out and taking care of themselves too. That’s seeking for some relationship advice from other people and then try to analyze it with one’s current relationship. After which you then see what you are not doing right or over doing and then try to work on them.



By doing so, it gives you some sort of relaxation and freedom. If it is necessary, you can even request to take some time out of the relationship just for a healthy mental well-being too.



Try to stay focus on your goals and ambition even when you find yourself in your relationship. If possible, try and set some limits or boundaries with your partner in other for you to be able to obtain or achieve these goals. This will make your partner understand you better there by not stopping or stepping into your lane when they see that you are up to something.



A clear and simple example can be in the case were by one partner is a student and will have to be reaching out to others for assistance in their studies whereby the other partner doesn’t feel comfortable with it. But if they are aware of it and that your studies is more important to you than the relationship they wouldn’t bother you.

As a counsellor, what advice will you give victims of a toxic relationship?
What i will advise them first on is that if they feel they are not safe in the relationship, they should back out or stop the relationship for their own safety. This is because some of these toxic relationships are very dangerous to once health and life.

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That is it makes anxiety worst and stress disorders. Which is unhealthy for a person. In order for one to improve their health conditions they have to be in a healthy relationship as well too.
Also, you should try and seek advice from experts on your relationship. If it necessary, try to go with the other partner of yours to the expert.



Lastly, we should try and understand one another in a relationship and shouldn’t over step out boundaries in a relationship. By doing so, we will be having a healthier relationship. One which is free from any form of toxic.


In conclusion, a toxic relationship isn’t healthy for one’s mental and psychological well-being. So if in case you find yourself in one, try to work it for it to be a healthy one. But in the case whereby it isn’t working, leave it for your own good.

I invite @preye2,@asaregabi and @juzkid to participate in this contest

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