Controlling anger
Edited using text on photo
Greetings to all my steemit friends.
It's an opportunity brought to us to share our views on anger related issues. Here we go....
My moody face
Hahaha, i don't enjoy looking at my face when angry. Sometimes it makes me ask myself if its actually the real me. The look does not look good on me. I remember watching comedy where the comedian said to someone "this is not my real face ooh...". Same with me here. This is not my real face. Hahahha
Getting angry easily was one of my attributes when I was a kid. However, it's still not clear to me if my case was that of stubbornness or anger issues. But one thing I know is as a kid I reacted to situations easily and angrily. As of that time, I fought almost every day in school and also at home. With my mate, I hardly exchange many words before I throw a punch.
However, we all that in most cases growth comes with a lot of changes both physically, mentally, and emotionally. As I grew older, I got to realize that I did not have to react angrily to situations. I also got to understand that the reason I easily get offended was due to my perspective about situations. I view things from a negative angle instead of a positive one. Life also made me understand my happiness is very vital and nothing is worth taking it away.
I also got to learn that sometimes life is not fair, as such, don't expect everything to be rosy for you. With this perception, I'm to conquer bad moments with laughter. I know anger isn't good for my health and it strains relationships with people around us. I have not seen where anger solved an issue, but I have seen where it landed people in a mess. I'm glad today that I have conquered my anger issue.
As blood and flesh, losing our cool and getting in a bad mood is one thing we can not avoid. I read that even Jesus Christ loosed his cool and got angry when he learned that people turned a place that was made for worship into a business center. In essence, no flesh and blood can avoid being upset when his or her boundary is being crossed.
Nevertheless, I'm the kind of guy who believes one can disappoint or fail you at times. I also believe that it is like a man to make mistakes that can sometimes trigger the anger of someone. As such, even before I go out of bed, I say to myself As you go out, you will meet different people from different backgrounds. Some might disrespect you, challenge you, and look down on you, but be stronger than your emotions. Don't react unprofessionally to situations.
As much as I try as much as possible to control my emotions, I get lost and angry when I perceive that I'm not valued, respected, or wanted. For this reason, I chose my friends, I decided where to be and where not to be. The reason, when you are in the right environment, you have a higher chance of being happy, and happiness is the most important part of life.
It was already 1:30 pm when an unusual sound on my neighbor's door woke me from sleep. I felt disturbed by their little dog whom I believed to be the one playing with the door, not until I heard the couple exchanging words, and the wife saying "Marrying you was the greatest mistake of my life". That was a strong statement from her. At that point, I was wondering what could make them go to that extent by that time of the night.
When the quarrel got intense, I and other neighbors decided to intervene and calm the matter. On reaching their door, we noticed that the man had locked the woman outside together with her clothes and other loads. It was shocking. We stood at the doorstep step knocking and pleading for him to open the door, but he gave us deaf ears. About 20 minutes later, he opened the door only to tell us that we were disturbing his sleep.
That statement pissed me off, but at that point, I controlled my anger and continue pleading for him to let the woman in. He insisted and pushed us out. Since he could not listen to us, we decided to take the woman to another room where she could spend the night with one of the ladies in the compound. When it was dawn, a pastor came to settle the matter, but you won't believe that he went ahead to slap the woman even in the presence of the pastor.
That was when I concluded that he was an animal and no longer a normal human being. I lost my emotions. I never knew that was the last time I would ever respect him. I couldn't believe that was the last time I would look at him as a normal human. I hate it when a woman is being maltreated. I believe it's high time that the government put more effort into protecting the rights of women in Africa.
As people would always say, everything has both negative and positive sides. Although I earlier stated that I have never seen anger solve an issue, I still understand that there are situations where we need to express our dissatisfaction just to make things right. We can not always take everything. Sometimes we need to react to situations to avoid future disrespect. Nevertheless, it will turn back to hurt us if we do it unprofessionally.
But in general, anger is bad for both our health and our relationship. In must cases, it can only land us in trouble. Nothing is more than being happy.
Thanks for going through. I now call on @patjewell, @josepha, and @simonnwigne to participate.
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You got me some point that there are situations where we need to express our dissatisfaction just to make things right. We can not always take everything. Sometimes we need to react to situations to avoid future disrespect. Nevertheless, it will turn back to hurt us if we do it unprofessionally.But in general, anger is bad for both our health and our relationship. I wish you success in the