Contest: Share with us the situation you passed through and the Process that took Place to help you overcome them.(#burnsteem25)

Hello steem friends

Special thanks to this amazing community and to @juzkid for hosting this contest. Thank you so much for having me here. This contest is such an opportunity to express how we felt about past issues we have gone through and probably encourage each other.

Seat back as I share with you my own experience of the situation of i have passed through and the process that took place to help me overcame them.

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THE SITUATION I HAVE PASSED THROUGH

Life generally is full of the good times and the bad times, so it's not always rosy! At one point or the other we all must have passed through some unpleasant situations and at that point we express our sadness differently.

I have had my own share of what I have passed through and believe me it was not a so funny experience.

It all began in 2019 when I recently relocated to Lagos state. Am this type of person that is social and excited making it easy for people to relate with me and get close. Secondly, I have a very tender heart, always ready to love genuinely and be of help.

In this city where I relocated, I met several people who became my friends,but there was this particular lady I found quite interesting, maybe because she really got me with her sad stories, making it so easy for me to have pity on her. I guess she knew the kind of heart I have, she knew telling me her stories we get me emotional and will make me open up my heart towards her.

She told me of how her Dad doesn't have her time, of how she doesn't have real friends, how the people she brought into her house to live with her are now in control of everything in the house and how they treated her. She told me she needed me she is all alone in this life. She told me alot of stories, I didn't have a choice than to assure her that I would be there for her as her real friend.

As time went on, we became friends. She calls me for virtually all her financial needs. She was still in school back then so most times she will call me for school fees, sometimes for school expenses like text books and the rest. I remember once she called one morning, almost crying on the phone that her exams was in two days time and her courses for the semester was not registered including part of her school fees was not paid. I asked her about her parents and she said her Dad travelled. I didn't even have much so I promised to give her something the next day which I did. I had to close my account giving her all I had.

As I was busy doing all these for this lady, I didn't know she goes behind my back stabbing me. I didn't know she was just using me to get her financial needs met. There was even a time I had no money, my best friend sent me money to eat and immediately I received the alert, this lady called me on phone asking me for the same amount I just received from my best friend. Guess what? I sent all the money to her and went hungry for days without food.

I began getting little warnings from people around me telling me this my new friend is not to be trusted, they told me some things she does but I didn't believe them because she always looked innocent whenever she comes around me. But I started observing and I found out she is becoming too familiar with me, so I made up my mind so give her some space.

January 2021, this lady travelled out of Lagos for a conference which I also attended. She didn't have money for her accomodation, she called me seeking for my help. So I asked her to come stay with me in my room. In that meeting, I also helped some other person's too so in my room we were more than 3 person's in the room but I made sure this lady slept on the same bed with me because I wanted her to be comfortable. During the meeting, I had time to speak to her about her attitude, and some of the things I heard about her. She kept apologizing to me and I thought she was really sincere about the apology.

Guess what after she went back to lagos in February, she did the worse. She told alot of her friends, and every other person who cared to listen to her things about me that was not true. She gave me a bad image which nearly cost me alot. She even told my boss lies about me.

I returned back to Lagos, and immediately I was summoned by my boss, thankGod he was didn't take action immediately after hearing the gist. He called to hear what I have to say. I was shocked when he told me who told him immediately I got depressed.

I remember entering the bus that day to go home and I passed my junction because I was so absent minded. The driver had to tap me on my shoulder to ask me where I was going to stop, that was when I realized I had passed my junction.

Tears rolled down my eyes that day as I walked home, my heart was broken. I didn't believe loving and caring for someone can lead to heart break. I kept crying every day. I developed heart pain. I was sick for more than a month. I could not sleep nor eat. I lost so much weight in one day. I could not concentrate on anything reasonable. My hear kept aching. I was really hurt!!

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THE PROCESS THAT TOOK PLACE TO HELP ME OVERCOME

Like I said earlier, I was so sick that I could not do anything. I called my best friend. She was there for me those period. She kept praying for me and encouraging me.

My best friend and I

Once she told me to stand up from my bed, go out to an eatery or to a park. She told me I shd not kill myself, rather I should rather learn my lessons of easily trusting people and giving helping hands.

She would call me everyday to know how I was doing, she would try to start up a conversation to put smile on my face. She even had to invite me over to her house to come stay with her for some time till I felt better.

When I got back home, I made a decision not to allow anyone steal my joy. I braised up, ate well, did things that made me happy and with time I got over the experience.

It's been more than a year now and every thing has gone, I have forgiven and I have moved on..I can't keep holding on to the past. I have made more new friends and I even love more.

I thought the experience was going to make me hardened but no it didn't. It made me more soft, more loving, more accommodating and sensitive.

So I feel our experience in turn affects who we later become, don't allow your bad experience turn you into a person you are not. Be kind, be good..Cheers!

Thank you for reading.

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