WHEN A PARTNER HURTS YOU, HOW DO YOU FORGIVE? |Relationship Goals|

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Forgiveness in Relationship
When a partner hurts you, how do you forgive? And should you?

Forgiveness is the decision to let go of resentment and vengeful thoughts. Although the act that hurt or offended you may remain with you forever, forgiveness can help to loosen its grip on you and help free you from the control of the person who harmed you — whether it be your partner or someone else.
It's a decision that won't come easy. It may seem impossible to forgive. But holding on to grudges and anger doesn't hurt the person who harmed you. It harms you.

The benefits of forgiveness

When angry feelings are allowed to fester, they can have dire health consequences, including high blood pressure, heart disease, depression, and anxiety. Holding on to anger can also lead to substance abuse, another way people try to numb their feelings.

Forgiving isn't about condoning what happened or excusing the behavior that caused pain. Nor is it forgetting or minimizing what happened or saying that it didn't matter. Instead, it's taking control of your thoughts and redirecting your energy.

Forgiving frees the forgiver. It clears out negative energy so that something positive and productive can take its place. That doesn't mean your relationship will necessarily be restored.

Even if you are convinced that your partner should say sorry, you should also think about how you can improve the situation. Otherwise, both of you will end up being emotionally wounded.

Forgiveness is a decision and not merely an emotional response. Forgiveness does not imply forgetting what occurred. It means accepting that it has happened in the past, but refusing to let it negatively affect your present and future.

Try to determine what triggered the event (it can be anger, resentment, or jealousy) and understand that your partner may have reacted in such a way because of their emotional condition at that moment. Remember yourself in a similar situation and try to put yourself in their shoes.

If you want to get back together with your loved one, do not hesitate to tell them "I forgive you" but do not expect them to immediately say "thank you". Let time pass, and they will realize what you have done for them.

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Forgiveness is not an option. It is a necessity. Without it, our hearts simply cannot be mended.

I hope this helps you in your relationship.
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