PHYSICAL INSECURITIES

What are you insecure about?
What do you wish to change about yourself?
And how has it affected your life?

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People will always deal with insecurities as they go through life and that’s normal. The most important thing about having insecurities is how it is managed. This is what determines how you view yourself. If you handle it the wrong way, you let it hurt you. You could learn to manage it right and let it have a positive effect on your life. For a lot of people, when they hear about insecurities, the first thing they relate it with is their physical appearance. Yes, they are right but that’s not the full picture. Insecurities cut across all facets of human life and it cuts through emotional, psychological, and mental insecurities. All of which contain subcategories.

Today, the focus will be on physical insecurities. This remains one of the most important types of insecurities and this affects other areas of one’s life. We’ve all had body issues at some point in our lives. For some of us, we learn to love ourselves and embrace everything it offers( as surgery is not cheap lol) the stretch marks, fat folds, large tummy, not being an hourglass, not having beards, having crooked teeth, an ugly smile, overtly large lips and the list is endless.

Some of these can be fixed as we’ve noticed an increase in Brazilian butt lift surgeries, liposuction, braces usage, botox, etc. How I wish there was a surgery for self-confidence, a lot of us will need to book a Doctor’s appointment. I used to feel these things were unnecessary and meant all those who partook in it were just insecure fellas turned out I was right but then there is a clause. Not everyone will have body-transforming surgeries as a result of insecurity. Some will carry out these procedures for health reasons. But for most, it comes from a place of insecurity. And there’s nothing wrong with it.

The end goal of getting over insecurity is being confident in your skin. The sad reality is that not all of us might be able to afford to have these surgeries and I seriously wouldn’t advise anyone to carry out these procedures via the backdoor to avoid being on today’s episode on botched.

As a teenager, I battled with insecurity, special thanks to my beautiful dentition. At some point, it got named, special thanks to being opinionated. My classmate told me to shut my mouth before he slaps out my typewriter teeth and for months it haunted me. Before that moment I already disliked smiling special thanks to it. So he further buttressed my stance by giving it a name. I finally outgrew it because I began to see myself as worth more than my dentition but that didn’t mean I started smiling or laughing.

For years I found it difficult to smile just because I was worried as to how people would perceive me and my dentition. This is one part of me I had to consciously work on and I am ever grateful I worked on it. Today I smile like it’s no man’s business and I’m confidently flaunting it. I might get braces in the future but it wouldn’t be because I want to be accepted or from a place of inadequacy.

In the end, we must learn how to love ourselves and our flaws. To be clear I’m not saying don’t work on yourself. What I’m saying is to work on yourself from a place of love and not inadequacy. Don’t change because you want to be accepted by people as that isn’t even a sure bet.

Always understand that you are enough.😊