That sounds familiar... We have a relative with us at the moment who, at the age of 72 and a driver for over 50 years, is standing at the petrol station wondering what goes in the tank, where the tank inlet is and how the hell it opens... And what a bank looks like on the inside. And whether it's possible to turn up a heater... ... If your partner has always done everything for you, you're doomed to helplessness.