Hi dear friend,
I cannot see the picture, you?

You forgot to mention "authority". People do not only judge on looks (they will to start with but trust me, authority and money are way more important if it comes to it and you have that.).

You might not be filthy rich but you can be noticed and if people don't like to hear, they should feel it (in their wallet if needed).
Your brother could give a hand there as well by telling that louse architect that it's your house, your drawing, you are the one who pays. Let her swallow that and think before she judges... and if she want to get paid.

There's also something like respect. And the least you can do is watching the one who pays your food into the eyes and show some respect.

If you keep hiding and thinking this way nothing will change and they won't show you any respect.
We both won't live forever and if you are already not too much liked there's nothing to lose except respect for yourself which is the worst.

I know it's a very hard life you are living and it's totally fine to confront the spoiled, "good" looking with the sick inside with it. Let them watch in the mirror before they speak.

I am happy to hear you are a member of MCGI and you accept help in case of need. There's no reason not to. Take the help you can get, everything you have a right to. Don't let anyone take it away out of false shame.

I send you a big hug and the courage to kick some asses (and if you can't let your mom and brother do it, that architect is not doing you a favour, you hire the person to do the job in the way you have in mind.).

🧡🧡