Avoid The Act Of Comparison
One thing that people should understand is that there is no standardized way of living your own life. When people start to use other people's lives as standards for their own, the feeling of inadequacy will arise and this will put strain and stress on themselves. In this era, many people tend to copy their standards from social media and this has wrecked many people's sanity. The truth is, when you follow what is depicted on social media, you may end up believing that everyone else is doing better than you, which is not so.
You do not owe anyone an explanation of how your life should run, so do not allow their standards to set a precedence for you. More so, many people just show off fake lives on social media and make you to believe that the sun only rises in their house. Whatever you see is only a reflection of what they want you to see and this may not be the real thing. Obviously, no one would want to flaunt their weaknesses on social media, but it does not mean they don't have any.
Most times, when you want to compare yourself with others, what you are most likely comparing is their own strengths (which they want you to see) with your own weaknesses (which you always see). By this, there will be untold pressure that will be birthed within you and you may tend to believe that you are below par, whereas you are actually doing better than them. If you know what some of the people you are setting as idols pass through in their private lives, you will be appreciative of where you are.
When you realize that you have your own lane to run, you will avoid unnecessary pressures. Take this instance: if a fish becomes so jealous of the frog because it can live outside the water and tries to copy it. Once the fish leaves the water because of the standards of the frog, it will be met with insane struggles. However, when the fish remains in the water, then it will have ease and it will not need to struggle.
A few months back, a friend of mine told me a story about someone that he used to envy at a point because of what he thought the guy owned. At that point, the guy was driving an suv but my friend could only afford a small saloon car. He was always wishing to be able to afford that kind of car until one day, the unexpected happened. The guy that was driving the suv was actually a placeholder for his brother that travelled for work. By the time his brother got back, he took his car back and he got back to trekking. You see, if my friend had done unwholesome things to be able to afford the suv, he would have been disappointed that he was going with the wrong standards.
If someone afford something that you cannot, do not feel sad, but be happy with them because your own will come when you need it. That you cannot afford to get something today does not rule off the propensity of you acquiring more than that tomorrow.
If you remember when mobile phones were launched, particularly the Blackberry of then, many people saw it as a sign of being a "big boy/girl". Many people sacrificed their future to be able to afford that phone in the past. Now fast-forward to today, if you are gifted with a Blackberry Bold2, will you accept it with excitement? This is just to give you an assurance of hope that what you cannot afford today, you can become a distributor of the same tomorrow - just do not allow yourself to be in competition with anyone.
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