We can certainly say that our decisions have marked our lives, but how can we differentiate between good and bad decisions and therefore, how to have the ability to make the best possible decisions in our lives, is certainly a topic. extremely relevant if we want to achieve a specific goal or the future that most attracts us and although there are many aspects that surround this decision-making process, today I would like to focus on what is, in my opinion, the biggest mistake we can make and that pushes us to choose options that are far from being the best for us.

Curiously, this mistake that we all make to a greater or lesser extent and it is something that apparently should not influence our choices too much, so we do not usually take it too much into account in our day to day life, but believe me, they do it and a lot and this that mistake and take the attacks or criticism of others as something personal, I mean, when someone attacks you, criticizes you, insults you or undervalues ​​you and does it with that intention, what they are looking for is to have a negative impact on you in order to that things do not go too well for you and if you open your doors to these criticisms, accept them and take them personally, that is, as if they were real and well-founded sentences, you will begin to question yourself.

If you allow these attacks to affect you, you will begin to question your values ​​and your abilities, you will become intimidated and it will impose limits on you that will make you perceive yourself as a worse person than you really are, logically this will affect you on an emotional level and push you to make bad decisions, because you will be including the fear that those people who seek to harm you will have put into your body.

We are social beings and it is very difficult for us to get rid of the weight of the opinions that other people have about us. especially if they are bad, but we must be aware that in reality these opinions do not have as much to do with you as you think and that we cannot take them personally under any circumstances; the opinions that others have about you or the criticism that they make of you do not have to do so much with your actions, but with the way you make others feel due to your actions, when they criticize you in a destructive way it does not mean that you have done something wrong, what it means is that through your actions you have made the people who criticize you feel bad or generated negative emotions and the way others manage their emotions cannot be your responsibility.