Dealing with Anger

Every human being that has blood flowing through his veins feels anger.

Anger, just like other strong emotions like sadness, love etc, is not inherently bad or even dangerous but it always needs consideration, and as with other emotions, understanding the root cause of the anger and why it is felt is the first step toward dealing with combating anger.

We all feel angry at different points in our lives and different situations or circumstances rather can make us feel angry. We could get angry at people, things, situations beyond our control such as a terminal sickness; we also get angry at life sometimes. Men,women and children express their anger differently.

Children most often feel and express their anger from the perspective of frustration where they can't have what they want when they want it, while adults get angry when they feel out of a situation.

An angry looking child

Anger is an emotion with psychological effects. We all understand the feeling of a rapid heartbeat, sweaty palms and burning stomach as our muscles tighten and we feel anger. The "fight or flight" system engages as we decide how best to deal with our anger.

When anger feeds off itself, your release of anger causes you more damage. Be wary of the cycle that wreaks havoc on your nervous system. When you can't shake the anger off and it feeds off itself for too long,you will either find yourself making yourself physically sick or your anger outbursts can land you in serious trouble. Research shows a link between angry outbursts and increased risk for heart attack and stroke. Smoking, poor diet and lack of exercise can exacerbate the effects of anger, putting you at an increased risk for bad cardiovascular activities.

Furthermore, People are not always the triggers of anger. Our environment could be a trigger of anger. When our environment causes stress and frustration we experience anger, just as we experience anger with people who Cause us stress and/or frustration.

People are not always the trigger of anger, unless maybe for instance there are too many drivers on a clogged highway, contributing to road rage. Noise pollution such as what one living in a construction zone would hear triggers anger and sometimes we don't even realize it.

If you find yourself getting angry and you're not sure why, try listening to your environment and recognize whether or not you're getting enough peace and quiet. Running around after kids on the home front or hopping from meeting to meeting in the corporate world can leave you stressed , angry and even frustrated. In conditions like this, you're not angry at anyone in particular but your environment is making you angry.

One thing I've realized is, humor can diffuse anger. Realizing that life is stressful in itself is only the first step. Actually, the realization is more like lacing up your shoes even before taking your first footstep.

The first step comes from the understanding that anger is an emotion that men and women feel differently, and anger does not have to control us.

The simple but somewhat weird act of laughing at anger can diffuse it.

In a heated argument, one person can defeat the mounting anger with a joke. Though I would not recommend a stand-up comedy act to diffuse a dangerous situation (you could get decked), but when your co-workers can't agree on a project, trying to diffuse the tensed situation with office antics can help everyone get lightened up and focused.

In conclusion, a plan for relaxation can combat anger. In an attempt to benefit from anger, you should plan to relax on a regular basis. Along with eating well and exercising, planning time to relax by taking the kids to the park to have a fun time or enjoying a show with a friend can combat anger.

We plan as much as we can for work, for our families and for our futures, but when we forget to plan to relax we give rise to anger.

I hope you found this article helpful.

Cheerios.😊