How do we deal with negative feelings
Negative emotions are those emotions that we do not like to have in ourselves, such as anger, anxiety, fear, sadness, and boredom.
Our rejection of these feelings comes from habits prevalent in societies
Behind it some unrealistic beliefs, such as a belief
"The man does not cry"
"Women love to bother"
All these expressions are behind the idea of rejecting the negative feeling.
In fact, negative feelings are nothing but natural reactions that God Almighty created in our bodies to give us a specific message.
Grief is a natural response to loss
● Anger is often a self-protective response to feeling injustice
● Anxiety is also a reaction that aims to alert us that there is an imminent danger in order to take precautions and take precautions to avoid possible pain in the future.
● Boredom is a message that tells us to reject the status quo. Perhaps we need to look for a change
The problem arises when societal customs cause us to reject these feelings
So we ignore it and instead of sitting a little with the feeling and understanding what the message is behind it, instead we hurry and overlook the feeling.
Denying the existence of negative feelings only intensifies them, as we say:
"I'm not angry or I'm not afraid"
The rejection of feeling develops size and strength, as we say:
"Why do I feel angry I must not feel angry !!"
Denial, ignorance and rejection are known to be repressive
Suppressing the feeling causes it to build up just like a pressure cooker, a situation behind a situation that increases the pressure until it generates an explosion
The external explosion in the form of fights or quarrels, including shouting and violent altercations.
Or the implosion is born in the form of physical diseases such as diabetes, blood pressure, irritable bowel syndrome, acute headaches, chronic back pain, depression and anxiety, and even cancerous diseases. God forbid.
The right way to deal with any negative feelings
It is recommended to wait a little if any negative emotion is detected
Admit it and take several deep breaths with a long exhalation
Deep breathing re-activates the parasympathetic nervous system responsible for calm, relaxation and logical thinking, then we do anything that makes us relax as long as we need.
When the storm subsides, and after we have taken the time to be alone with it and calm ourselves down, we re-analyze the situation
This method may seem long, but with a lot of practice and practice, we can relax quickly and return to better awareness and logic
"How are you trying to get rid of the negative emotions that affect your life?"
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