SEC - S10W3 | "The power of good advice"

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What do you think advice is for, is it really necessary?

I think it is wise sometimes not to give advice, and to let the other drown in order to teach him his experience.

Many people do not like advice and believe that it is not needed, and if it is presented to them, they will only hear it with one ear and remove it from the other ear, and when the wise man is aware of this, he will not present his jewels to those who do not deserve them. He will not waste his time.

Of course, the way you give advice is a must! Some people are very adept at giving advice in an elegant and circumvented manner, and some of them give advice not out of wisdom and reform, but rather out of condescension and belittling others, as if he is the one who knows everything and no one else, and this is the most widespread type that claims advice and hides behind it other motives.

Therefore, we have become suspicious of advisors and avoided hearing their advice, due to lack of confidence in its purity.

About myself: I never listened to advice until the university stage, and one time my uncle advised me: to listen to advice from anyone and never comment on it and write it in my diary no matter how trivial it is and put its date and then come back every weekend or every month to turn over these pages if something stops me Write a note in front of it, was it correct? Did I have to work it out to avoid something?

Indeed, there were treasure-like tips, but I did not pay attention to them until it was too late. And then I realized that every advice is a treasure until proven otherwise.

What is the best advice you have received, who gave it to you?

Let people say what they say, you will always find someone to criticize you, and it is up to you whether you want to take their opinions seriously or not.

This advice was given to me by my father, and I was very shy as a child. I had a lot of problems making friends and when I moved to another city I didn't have any friends because being shy didn't help. I was always thinking about what people would say if I did something, and you could say I thought about everything and nothing but what people would say about it.

Somehow my parents found out and advised me not to think about what everyone was saying. Just keep doing what you're doing and let them say it, because you can't shut up everyone, people always have something to say.

If you are fat or big they will criticize you ...If you are skinny, they will criticize you . If you are tall, they will criticize you . If you are short, they will criticize you.

People always have something to say , and all you have to do is either take their advice with love and do something to make them happy or ignore them and trust your own opinion.

Here's a picture of what I mean:

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Don't take anyone's opinion seriously, just trust yourself, don't let someone else's opinion change you, and whoever doesn't care about you until you'll always find something to say to you.

To whom do you regularly turn to for advice?

I can say, I haven't turned to anyone for a while , at first he is out of vanity as a teenager who sees the universe centered around him, so he will not accept anyone to help him.

When I entered the stage of youth, I knew that the real problems had not yet begun, and it became necessary for me to turn to those with more life experience but there is a problem: I am a stubborn person and I often insist on this. My attitudes are to people and things, so there is no point in trying to help anyone.

Now, I see it in a different light, which is: no one will know everything about you, so their advice often comes off patchy.. wait! Did you say "nobody"? So I only have to apologize to one person: (me).

I'm the only person who knows everything about me, so when the advice comes from the inside, I'm sure it's right for me.

In short whenever I face a challenge in my life, I turn to myself to discuss it and you discuss it with me, until we find a solution.

Do you like to give or receive advice?

In real life, I do not give any advice even if a person is going to take himself to his death. I tell myself that it is not my business , and this was the result of several experiences that I came out with, the most of which is when a person resorts to you for advice on his relationship with a third party, as soon as you advise him or tell him about That person's faults, until days turn around and he tells him as if you slept with him and talked badly about him, and they reconcile, and you become the bad person..

In our culture, there is a proverb that we say that summarizes this for you:

What I saw, what I know, what I found,...

To precede the meme and not wear the garment of advice is the best way for my comfort. A person will leave with empty hands, and you buy your comfort, and there is another type that resorts to you, as it nests one of the bad ideas in his mind, he asks for your help, and when you advise him that his ideas are not good or a wrong point of view, you enter with him into debates And endless talk, and in the end you will hear that you are jealous or do not understand ..

But in virtual life, I put some advice, especially in societies and advice that is intellectual, and I know in the virtual world that there is a margin that does not exist in real life.

In summary: I gave up the mantle of advice, for it only gets me into trouble.

What is the best advice you have received on Steemit, who gave it to you and what has it helped you with?

This is an incident I had with a steemit user that I considered a brother and you can read about it in this screenshot.

The moderator advised me not to trust any user because it remains above all a virtual life and nothing is 100% guaranteed. No matter how advanced the electronic friendship is, it cannot reach the depth and strength of true and realistic friendship. Direct communication is an essential element of friendship, at least in its initial stages, as well. It is the joint activities and attitudes that bring individuals together that make the friendship deeper and stronger, and it cannot be said that the comfort in talking with an Internet friend makes the friendship strong and deep, but some may set high expectations for the depth and durability of the electronic friendship that makes him surprised when he feels that it is just a fleeting friendship Or they are too weak to withstand small and insignificant situations.

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