decided that she will explain to her husband politely and lovingly
Tamanna is a cool and calm character, like most women in our society. But even in this situation (while she knows everything)why is she so patient? Why isn't she mad at her husband? Why does she still feel obliged to behave with love and care? In the situation she is facing, how can a woman be so composed?
I don't know if it is society or the way she was brought up that pushes her to behave this way. But is it justified for a woman to behave like this? The only thing Tamanna does for herself is in the last lines, but I guess the pressure on her will never let her.
My dear friend, @mehwish-almas
I know that your outspoken and rebellious behavior forces you to write like this. Whereas you know that in some of our male-dominated countries, despite being so educated, women have not been given equal status from the heart. And isn't another woman responsible for ruining a woman's family? It takes two hands to clap. And what will Tamanna do by getting too angry, the whole society will only support the man. Yes, Tamanna herself will become a victim of a long frustration, disappointment, anger and depression. I think in such a situation it is very important to first explain to your husband very calmly and lovingly.
You should not think that I am saying this because I am a man, in fact I have understood human psychology very closely. Most marriages are failing because now husbands and wives do not work with patience. Everyone is aware of men's attraction towards multiple women. [ But it is also the fault of those women and girls who do not stop a married man from doing this ] .
Perhaps I can write a longer speech on this topic than my story, reading which you will also get bored, but in the end I will say that I have made my character Tamanna a little patient so that she does not destroy her settled home in her anger.
May Allah bless you.
This.....this very reply was what I was expecting. Of course, another woman is responsible for this mess, and I'm not denying. But men in our society always have the upper hand(a typical man dominating society). Acting loving and caring just to save her home is not the right way to handle the situation. The pain and frustration pile up inside her, which she then transfers to the next generation (believe me). A drained woman can never raise a healthy generation.
You know much more than me because of your experience, deep awareness of psychology, and observation of society. I don't even know which one of us is more right, but I do know one thing—a woman of this era (when she is independent) does not break her home just because she cannot tolerate a thing or two. She breaks her home because she knows that a relationship is not just her responsibility. It’s a clap with two hands.
For me, a respectfully broken marriage is much better than an exhausting and insulting relationship.
I know it's my turn to bore you, but just switch the characters , a loyal man and a dishonest woman. Does it work with the same ethics of love and care from a man for his wife? Of course, we known the answer.(While the scenario in your story already works very well in our society, with thousands of practical examples).
Namaste meri border paar ki dost,
Thank you for saying such clear and precise things. You are right that in a male dominated society, the responsibilities of women to adjust increases, but it is also true that a woman filled with pain and frustration cannot build a good society or a good generation. Expecting any morality from another man or womanizer may be our last ray of hope. In this society, the first thing responsible for immorality is our family values, society, then the level of education, and lastly the increasing religious influence.
Nothing you say can bore me, rather it gives me the pleasure of a large Scotch peg.
Please forgive me if you did not like anything I said.
khush raho, mast raho, aur mujh par apna gussa nikalti raho.
Allah maf kry g ... Gussa hony ki koi vaja ni