SEC-S16/W2 - "Childhood trauma and incidents: how do they affect our children's life?"

_{Build a good communication relationship with the children to know all their problems.}

Hello everyone who is in this community, let's participate in the contest Steemit Engagement Challenge - S16/W2 - "Childhood trauma and incidents: how do they affect our children's life?" held by the Hindwhale community.

Raising children is a tough struggle, many parents are able to raise children but are unable to educate children with noble morals.

▶️ What are the problems faced by children, & what are childhood traumas?

As adults, of course we have gone through childhood or childhood, at this time generally children in doing something or taking action are more dominant in imitating what they have seen done by others, very few children are able to take an action by thinking clearly.

_{Good communication and making friends with them makes them more comfortable to disclose all kinds of problems.}

According to my analysis, at this time children are more dominant in getting violent behavior, bullying, and other bad things. Usually this kind of behavior occurs by their peers, so it is not uncommon when we see children often fight with their friends. It is because of their behavior that sometimes likes to mock, bully weak friends because they feel they are stronger.

Children's play environment is just like the law of the jungle, the stronger will rule and the weaker will always be oppressed. Some children are obsessed with the content of fighting and fighting so that they feel proud of the strength they have, again being able to defeat their peers in front of many people as a form of proof of their abilities.

Therefore, it is very important for parents to always want to communicate with their children, approach children so that children want to talk and want to express what problems they face. Because children are usually reluctant to communicate with their parents because they tend to be afraid and reluctant, but there are times when parents are also not too friendly with their children, not understanding the conditions of their children.

What I said above is also my personal experience, when I was 6-9 years old I often experienced a lot of bullying by my friends who had bigger bodies. I also got a lot of teasing, my friends often mocked me by calling my parents names. But I also did not dare to complain about my problems to my parents because I was reluctant to them.

_{Spending time with children makes them more open to their parents.}

However, all the trauma that I have felt since I was a child can be controlled by taking lessons or positive values, now as a teacher I understand the condition of students better than other teachers. I encourage my students to open up to me and try to entertain them by spending time playing with them.

▶️ How to protect children from social bullying?

_{Keeping an eye on your child's playmates, supervising their play environment, and always setting an example are the best ways to protect your child from the dangers of bullying.}

One of the most effective ways to protect children from bullying is to know who their playmates are, know the environment where they play. If we detect that our children's playmates have bad behavior, a disrespectful way of speaking then forbid them to play with children like that.

But there are times when we must also be able to detect how to keep our children from bullying others, we can do this by always giving positive examples to our children, teaching good things to children, such as giving alms, raising animals, and being affectionate with each other.

▶️ How to educate our children about good touch and bad touch?

_{Keeping children safe while playing is one way to prevent them from being touched by strangers.}

All parents worry about their children becoming victims of abuse, so it is very important for children to be taught about sex education. The meaning of sex education does not mean that children are taught how to have a relationship like a husband and wife, but how to help children understand sexuality as part of a healthy body.

Therefore, sex education for children is very important with the aim that children are able to understand which areas can be touched and which should not be touched, especially if there are certain areas that are touched by unknown people, so that if one day there is a condition like that happens the child is able to fight and reject.

▶️ What do we have to sacrifice to raise a good child?

Raising children is a tough struggle, many parents are able to raise children but are unable to educate children with noble morals. Children with good morals will certainly bring peace of mind to both parents. But children who behave badly will certainly bring shame to their parents.

_{Good parents are parents who are willing to spend a lot of time with their children, good behavior from parents can be emulated by children.}

In my opinion, the best strategy to be successful in educating children is to sacrifice two main things, namely spending time with children and sacrificing the cost of providing children with religious knowledge.

Parents are the first teachers for their children, therefore the role of parents is very important in raising children so that children have good morals. Time spent with parents can become values in the child's life in the future.

Educating children to be good and noble is by giving children strong religious knowledge so that children know which is good and which is bad, if children have good religious knowledge then all their attitudes and behavior can be an example for many people.

Thus this article, I hope it is useful and inspires all who read it.I also invite you to participate in this contest. @fadia, @petjewell, @mayasari95, @waterjoe

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