BE BRAVE IN THE FACE OF YOUR OWN WRONGDOINGS
Greetings, my dear readers who with each entry and interaction give life to this great @ProjectHOPE community!
This is my first participation here and I confess that I am very excited to share my perspectives on the management of our emotions before those small or big mistakes we can make as we go through life, which are part of our own nature as human beings.
From the beginning of time originated the need to look for and blame another person or object for our wrong actions, I will make my explanation a little more graphic.
"And they heard the voice of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day; and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God among the trees of the garden. And the LORD God called unto the man, and said unto him, Where art thou? And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself. And God said unto him, Who told thee that thou wast naked? hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat? And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest me to be my companion, she was in the midst of the tree, and I did eat. And the LORD God said unto the woman, What hast thou done? And the woman said, The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat. ” Genesis 3:8-13
As can be glimpsed in this reading Adam and Eve did not take responsibility for their disobedience in eating from the tree of life, for the man blamed the woman and she blamed the serpent.
Nowadays as human beings we all tend to make mistakes or have some failures, but we rarely look for the origin of the problem to solve it and on the contrary we try to look for a responsible to alleviate our burden and that is not the right solution.
Where is our emotional maturity? We must be brave and face our mistakes and the consequences that derive from them.
The situation is that it is human nature to place the responsibility for our mistakes on someone else and that is why this is a common denominator in marital relationships, where each one blames the other for the problem instead of sitting down and accepting their own responsibilities, on the contrary, this happens as in a domino game that is locked and has no solution.
In the same way it is observed between parents and children where each one indicates that they are not fulfilling their role well and as a consequence of this are the actions that they are carrying out in a wrong way.
And so on in a broader sense, from the point of view of society, when a person loses his job due to frequent misconduct, he is offended and looks for culprits as usual. I will exemplify this narrative a little.
This person is upset and goes to his boss's office and tells him that he has no justification for his dismissal, the boss replies that he has been late on several occasions and he only excuses himself for different reasons.
At first he tells her that there was a lot of traffic and he could not arrive on time; secondly, he says that it rained all morning and it was impossible for him to leave early; and thirdly, he says that his house keys were lost and he could not find them.
As we can see in the 3 occasions he seeks to justify his unpunctuality at the time of arrival at work for different reasons, which makes the man think that this is something personal and if this situation is repeated in another place of work, he simply argues that fate has it against him and that everything he does goes wrong for that very reason.
Without realizing that the real responsible for the whole situation is himself and therefore what he really has to do is to stop blaming other people and perform an intrinsic self-evaluation, so that he can find the real problem and solve it.
It is necessary to work on an exhaustive evaluation in order not to fall into self-pity, to feel sorry for oneself, which in the long run becomes an obstacle that does not allow him to emerge and progress in life, he ends up becoming a failure with excuses and valid reasons for not having achieved his dreams.
The main causes of these facts are pride, self-centeredness and even a certain degree of narcissism that does not allow him to be humble and to be able to show the mistakes that have prevented him from moving forward in life.
The fear of suffering the consequences of their actions, so the best thing to do is to justify their mistakes with something, the fear of what people will say for the mistake made.
Accepting that a person has made a mistake in life is truly courageous, because it results in having to face all of the above, however, it benefits you greatly by leading you to be reflective and modify your life design to a style that will bring you closer to your desired purpose.
Hello @sidalim88!
Very good examples. Certainly sometimes it is difficult to assume the consequences of our actions and recognise our failures, but that is part of maturity and wanting to be better people in order to move forward and grow in many aspects. Thank you for sharing
Hi @yusvelasquez, that is precisely the key point, emotional maturity, it is essential for any human being to have the courage to assume when he has made a mistake or modify his strategy to achieve the proposed goal.
Greetings and thanks for your comment