Tips on Anger Management [Psychological View] - Part 1

For some people, their greatest challenge is taming their anger or at least putting it to check. Just to make the point clear, offenses will come - from the home, at the traffic, in the office, just everywhere, so it is not much of your choice to stop challenges from coming. The only thing you have a choice of is how to react to the situations. This is why it has been said that "how you respond to an issue is more important than the issue itself". Here, we'll take a look at the first part of how to manage anger and complete it in the next episode.

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1. Always think well before speaking

This is where many people fail it; they tend to speak when they have been angered and when everything calms, they cannot take back their words and the words may come back to haunt them. Trust me, the words spoken out of anger may stick around longer in the mind of the person it is said to. You will hear some people make this statement; "I just gave him a piece of my mind". However, when the heat dissipates, they will regret what they have said.

Believe me, it is easier to make regrettable, harsh, and rude statements when angry. This is why you have to carry your brain with you at all times. Before speaking, do not just think of what to speak, also think of the consequences of the speech in the long run. Obviously, you may be granted the freedom of speech as a free-will, but how about the freedom after you have spoken? Think about it.

Many people have gotten themselves into trouble simply because they did not know when and what to speak. What if after speaking out of anger and you realize that the angering situation was misdirected, how will you take back your words. Before you speak in anger, if you can pause a while to reflect on what to speak, you may realize that it won't worth the stress and that's how you begin to master your mind over anger.

2. Identify the possible triggers of anger and the solution

To be able to solve a problem, the first step is to identify that the problem exists in the first place. Your knowledge of the existence of the problem will lead you to focus on the solution. Here, you need to identify what normally triggers the anger. For example, if going to certain places always makes you angry at the end of the day, then you may start by limiting how you go to the place. If hanging out with certain people always triggers anger in you, then it will do you more good to change the people you hang out with.

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Always try to remind yourself that anger does not get anything solved, so the only thing to do is to find a way to resolve it. Anyone that succeeds to make you angry has only proven that they can control your emotions at will. A friend of mine once said that "anger is the punishment that someone gives to themselves for the offense of someone else". It is worthy to note that anger, most times, is a choice but the consequences of your anger is beyond your choice.

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