Overcoming Rejection (Psychological View). Part 1

in Project HOPE4 years ago (edited)

One of the leading causes of depression is rejection. Not just depression, even substance abuse (like drugs etc) and in some cases, suicide can be a direct impact of rejection. According to this article, suicide ideation has been remotely linked to some factors which also includes rejection. This being said, we need to find out ways to live above rejection. Yeah, rejection can come in many ways; in relationships (dates et al), in work places and whatnot. Here, we will take some tips on overcoming rejection and we will complete it in the subsequent episode.

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1. Acknowledge and accept the event that led to rejection

This is actually one of the hardest things to do in an event of rejection, but it is always a step in the right direction to overcome rejection. Instead of trying to suppress the emotional pain, you need to acknowledge it. Acknowledge the fact that you were embarrassed. This is because, the knowledge of a problem is the first and potent step to solving the problem.

Acknowledging it will prevent you from imploding inwards from over-thinking. Try to realize that you are not the only one in this situation. This will pump in you the inner strength to face it. However, it is important to know that what happens to you is not as important as your responses and reactions to it - so be cautious of your actions. Emotions have ways of influencing one's actions and for every action, there's a complementary consequence. That being said, let's look at what to do next after you have acknowledged that you were rejected.

2. Look at the bright side

For the fact that you were rejected only goes to prove that you have made an attempt and may have even pushed beyond your limits - which is actually a good thing. Signs of maturity can also be seen in the way someone can deal with situations without being emotionally imbalanced by it. This is why mentally mature people will realize that rejection can come as long as they push themselves through new actions but they are not afraid to take the risk.

As a matter of fact, you won't know if you are making progress in the right direction until your actions begin to be challenged or opposed. The knowledge of this will make you to welcome rejection with an open mind instead of with an empty mind, so that it will not break you on the inside.

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3. Don't allow yourself or your actions to be defined by your past rejection

If one employer turns you down, do you wrap your head in sorrow and conclude yourself as having no value or do you move on to the next employer? If an academic institution denies you admission, do you quit schooling or do you look for other universities? Now that's the spirit; do not allow whatever that led to the rejection to take a greater part of your life. You have to learn to move on.

The truth is; the opinion of one person should not be what will chart the course of your life. Understand that someone's opinion about you may still be wrong, so always look beyond that and focus on how to build up yourself and those that have rejected you may even come back to seek for your attention.

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@samminator human nature is very strange it cannot handle rejection , but as per my thinking rejections helps us to learn more from our mistake so that in future we cannot to it afterwards.

Yeah, that's the idea - to look beyond what led to the rejection and focus of ways to improve ourselves to become better.
Thanks for the comment buddy

Hello @samminator, this post interests me a lot. YOU KNOW, TALKING ABOUT REJECTION, leads to think about many types and many areas where you could be rejected.
In relationships, at work, love, in short, in any aspect that includes human relations, obviously.
But, I want to mention something particular. As a migrant, a Venezuelan living in Colombia, it's usually something quite complex. To begin with, because of my nationality, there is already rejection, although it seems absurd. You have to be very sure of yourself, of what you are worth, and understand that people with a closed mind are everywhere. For some people, not allowing themselves to be affected by that reality can be a feat, and it can certainly lead to social isolation.

I'm so honoured by your presence and your amazing comment.
Exactly, we should understand that there are some people with closed minds, so we should not allow their mindset to becloud our sense of acceptability.

Thanks for coming around buddy

At some point in my life, I was controlled by what other people had to say about me, I wanted to appear good to everyone so I gave people the power to control the way I dressed and the things I did. I was gradually subjecting myself to depression and pain but a close friend came into my life and changed the way I reasoned, I began to gain understanding on the need to love myself and give myself the power to live my life the way I loved it.

One of the fastest ways to rejection and depression is to allow other people's standards to control your life. The truth is, you can please everyone and attempting to do that may break you.
Thanks for the amazing comment Tobi

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