Forgiveness as a psychological factor to improve our quality of life

Greetings again my dear friends I hope you are all very well, I have always believed that our greatest purpose in life is linked to our emotional balance, and if we want to go in this direction, then, undoubtedly we must have a great psychological factor which gives us the enormous possibility of improving our desired quality of life, in this case I am referring to forgiveness, that is why putting it into practice will help us greatly to stabilize our emotions moved.

As human beings we are exposed to make any kind of mistakes being one of them not to offer forgiveness knowing that we are not perfect and in the same way we make mistakes in any of our decisions, however, if there is something that I have learned in my years of life is that in order to forgive others we must learn to forgive ourselves, hence we must be the main protagonist when we talk about forgiveness.

Our greatest ally is our inner self since we constantly dialogue with it and even confront ourselves many times, that is why our first task is to learn to forgive ourselves since we could never offer or provide something if we do not do it with ourselves, and I feel that when I have managed to implement self-forgiveness I release a huge psychological burden and this has helped me to grow as a person in every way.

That is why when we learn to forgive from the heart, that is to say, with sincerity, we manage to break with those barriers such as prejudices or beliefs and attitudes that limit our personality when it comes to the way we act, for example, to forgive others, that is why I could learn to forgive the people around me when I understood that I had to learn to forgive myself first.

If we think about how we act in life, we may find that one of the things we find most difficult is to forgive someone, whoever that person may be, for something they have done to us, but we must always ask ourselves, will we be able to forgive someone who offends us?

If in reality we are not able to offer such forgiveness, then let us be absolutely sure that we have not learned to forgive ourselves, it is inevitable that at some point someone has made us feel bad or vice versa, since this is something that we could consider part of our life, and with it, growth, of course, there will be actions that may exceed our capacity for tolerance and even more if this occurs over a long period of time, testing our physical and mental endurance.

In the situation described above, there will be two ways to follow, return the damage and pay with the same coin, which I doubt will make us recover our emotional balance since taking revenge makes things worse and we transform ourselves from victims into aggressors and for sure we will never get our inner peace, something we said should be our main priority in our journey through life.

No one on this planet is perfect because we all make mistakes and we learn from them and by internalizing this we will be able to make the other person see such behavior and this will be our first symptom of forgiveness towards this person by getting upset we gain nothing because we all have good and not so good things, so we can make mistakes just like other people and why not forgive them.

There are people who may be wrong in mistreating someone and believe that they act well and when someone offers them forgiveness for their wrong actions they reflect and change their attitude, maybe that person does not care about our forgiveness but we do because we will be calm with ourselves and at some point that person will also do it, learning to forgive will always help us to grow as a person in every way and will never hurt us, on the contrary, we will discover that we are stronger than we think because we will not have any resentment in our minds and hearts.

Until another opportunity my dear friends.