Battling Self-Esteem; The Strategy Of Making Oneself Invaluable In Service Of Others (II)

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Self-esteem is an important aspect of our lives, as it helps us build confidence, resilience and a sense of worth. Without it, we may struggle to find our place in the world, feel inadequate, and be unable to achieve our goals. However, many of us struggle with self-esteem, either due to traumatic experiences, negative self-talk, or societal pressure. Luckily, there is a strategy that can help us battle low self-esteem: making oneself invaluable in service of others.

Self-esteem is rooted in the belief that we have value and that we are worthy of love, respect and happiness. When we lack self-esteem, we may feel like we are not good enough, and that we do not deserve good things in life. This can lead to a cycle of negative thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that prevent us from reaching our potential. However, by making ourselves invaluable in service of others, we can break this cycle and start building self-esteem.

Making oneself invaluable in service of others is a powerful strategy that has been shown to boost self-esteem and increase feelings of worthiness. This can be done in a variety of ways, such as volunteering, mentoring, or even simply helping out friends and family. The key is to find something that resonates with us and that we are passionate about.

When we give of ourselves to others, we get a sense of purpose and fulfillment. We feel like we are making a difference, and that our actions matter. This helps us to see ourselves in a more positive light, and it gives us a sense of accomplishment. Additionally, by serving others, we get to see the positive impact we have on the world, and this gives us a sense of self-worth.

Another way to make oneself invaluable in service of others is through mentoring. Mentoring is a way of helping others to achieve their goals by providing guidance and support. By mentoring, we are not only helping others, but we are also learning more about ourselves and our own strengths and weaknesses. This helps us to develop a more realistic self-image and it allows us to see the value that we bring to the table.

Another strategy that can help us to battle low self-esteem is to practice self-compassion. Self-compassion is the act of treating oneself with the same kindness, care, and understanding that we would offer to a friend or loved one. It involves acknowledging our faults and failures, but also recognizing that we are doing the best we can, and that we are worthy of love and forgiveness.

By practicing self-compassion, we can learn to be kinder and more compassionate to ourselves. We can also learn to see ourselves in a more positive light and to focus on our strengths rather than our weaknesses. This can help us to build self-esteem and to feel better about ourselves.

It is important that we surround ourselves with people who uplift and support us. This includes both friends and family, as well as professionals such as therapists and coaches. Surrounding ourselves with people who believe in us, and who encourage us to be the best versions of ourselves, can be incredibly powerful when it comes to building self-esteem.

In conclusion, self-esteem is an important aspect of our lives, and when we lack it, we may struggle to find our place in the world, feel inadequate, and be unable to achieve our goals. However, by making ourselves invaluable in service of others, we can break the cycle of negative thoughts and feelings, and start building self-esteem. Additionally, by mentoring, practicing self-compassion, and surrounding ourselves with supportive people, we can further boost self-esteem, and feel better about ourselves.

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By @aduragbemi
Erinkitola A. Aduragbemi
January 11, 2023