Signs You Are Dealing With A Master Manipulator..!!
Manipulation is usual in today’s world. A lot of people manipulate each other to get things done, and their needs met. Even you do so to people knowingly or unknowingly to get something done. And that’s quite okay, and there is no bad in it. A little manipulation and selfishness is a part of human growing up. However, though it is evident of you to face different types of manipulation as you grow up, things are only normal till you know it is just manipulation and not master manipulation.
Yes, sometimes, what you deal with is not just manipulation but master manipulation. And the irony is you never recognize it simple. It takes you years of dealing with a person that you finally conclude that the relationship you share with them is toxic and lacks empathy. To your unfortunate, there, you are trapped, and cannot even help yourself. You are stuck like there is no way out and get a shock for life. You are unable to digest the fact that something like this can ever happen to you in life, you have been used all over the years for the other person’s motives, and your needs and wants were never acknowledged or looked.
It was everywhere the other person around whom the entire scenario revolved. There, the positive image you have had of the other person in your life and eyes is all destroyed. You are unable to believe that your loved one is not that kind and is manipulative. You feel shattered, and curse yourself for not recognizing this sort of manipulation anytime soon or earlier in your life. You even find the positive self-image you built-in front of the world over the years, all ruined, and no room for justification or proving your point to someone. And once you recognize that there is this kind of problem in your life, you go through a regular internal trauma that you deal with difficulty. Your every day with healing gets complicated, and it looks like you have to start over all it again.
You somehow utter guts and strength to get up each day and fight with it together with continuing on your journey to healing. You feel it will take you years to recover and get back to your true self and relish your lost identity. You feel as if it would have been better if what that happened to you not happened to you. You feel like crying day and night, and only you know the reason. You have a single person to support you and maybe not even one.
In the last case, you surrender yourself to Almighty and learn to live, survive, and somehow grow in the grasp of reality, hoping that someday you’ll get the way and can make to live a little more peacefully. You go with the flow as you find no other way around for the moment, and leave things on time, work to make them better with patience, compromise, and determination. You make your mind forever stick to the truth no matter what comes your way, good or bad, no matter your suffering, never goes away, and you have to suffer till life.
So, if you think that you are one person going through all such things in your life, then it may be possible that you are dealing with a master manipulator. Here are more signs you can look to confirm that:
1. They portray themselves as the most charming creatures in the world
Most of the time, the people who present the perfect family image to the outsiders and portray themselves as the most interesting woman or man in the world turn out to be the master manipulators. Such people will show you extreme sympathy, in the beginning, shower you with all the love in the world, make you come to the terms that this is the best relationship that ever existed in the world. Then in the second step, things will begin to change. They will start to give you a little less love showing that you are doing less than what you can do, are not exactly doing what they wanted from you, and are not able to meet up to their expectations fully.
And in the end, leave you at the drop of a hat, without even explaining into, behaving like nothing ever existed or happened and will put the blame on you that whatever wrong happened, happened because of you, and they weren’t involved anywhere. They will confidently put you at fault and victimize themselves, leaving no room for you to get evidence against them and justify your behavior. And you’ll end up getting confused and initially cannot even look up to what really happened and would even think that maybe you are only wrong and are not worthy enough for anything.
And it is your regular dealing with them after you find your personal as well as professional life all ruined that you get to recognize the nature of the person manipulating you. You go into flashback, and the many things of the past make you realize the reality of your life. The truth that you were unable to pay attention to over the years out of ignorance and immaturity. And your that encounter with the reality of your life leave you voiceless and make you hide from the limelight. You go dumb, somehow accept, and adjust positively to the truth of your life, and go on with your life, hoping for the better times to come. At first, you think that you can’t even heal, but you can. No doubt, you can.
Though it may take you years to come out of such kind of abuse, and settle your life all again in every way, you can do it one day. You may even have to go back against almost everything you’ve known and start it all new and fresh, but you can do it one day, and live up to the life you have always dreamt of and like the person you are.
2. They praise you in front of yourself and gossip behind your back to those who love to listen
Highly manipulative people if they fail to control you, and get a gist of the fact that now you are coming to progress in understanding their nature, control how other people think of you. They gossip to people behind your back who love to listen. They will lie about you a lot, and negatively manipulate the facts and information you earlier shared with them and do everything possible to ruin your social reputation, to make you completely dependent on them. Such people can even go out of their way to share your personal information with others as slander or gossip.
The thing is such people have gossiped about you, shared even your littlest of mistakes, high personal information, to other people since the very beginning. But things got light when it is almost all over, and get worse with you not getting along with them anymore. Since they are covert in their process, they are well aware of your weaknesses and strengths already a while before it gets over for you. So, they’ll use it all against you to make you feel helpless and gain control over you in the future.
However, now when you are in full terms with their nature, it is up to you to be in control of them or not. Remember, no one can control you without you wanting to do so. The only thing is you need to be aware. Once you are aware of such kind of abuse, you can handle the present as well as future consequences of your life and save yourself from further manipulation. Slowly and slowly, you can get back to your life, and live to it quite freely.
3. They always try to put you down and don’t let you establish your self-identity
If a person always tries to find faults in you, give no room for human errors, very little space and time to grow, regularly put you down with their words, actions, lies, shout-outs, deeds that means you are dealing with one master manipulator in your life. Such people act as a regular hindrance in your way of success. Whenever you start to take back control of your life, move on the path of your career, and establish your own identity, such people will act as a constant barrier to your growth.
They will act like they are your supporters and are nowhere wrong, and some other person is responsible for your unhappiness and not-so-good and instable career life. But, in reality, they are only at fault and don’t want you to grow, as they want to control your freedom and independence and want you to be forever indebted to them.
Such people knowing all your heart have ruined your self-identity a long time before you’ve come to realize that. They have destroyed your true self in front of the people a long time before you have come to realize that, and now when you have come to acknowledge that, it’s too late for you to fight and take a stand for yourself, and being silent is the only choice you have right now.
For the time, you have to compromise and live with that uneasy emotion and anger for that person. You have to live with that disrespect, guilt, and hatred among the people for you. You have to ignore it all and work on your progress. Though it is indeed hard for you, believe that you have no other choice, and going on your progress, uttering all the strength and guts, will only give you desired results in the long run.
If you find yourself stuck in most of these situations..
Then, it is most likely that you are dealing with one master manipulator in your life. (Such master manipulator can be your mother, father, brother, sister, friend, or any other). However, don’t panic here. At least, you have realized what’s going wrong in your life, and that’s a big thing. You can recover from this past trauma, and all you need is courage. Though it will take a lot, once you gather all the courage to do it, you can heal yourself in the long run. Don’t forget, you have a life ahead of you to live with, truth, peace, happiness, and growth. So don’t give up, and go on.
Also, be aware of the tricks and tactics that your manipulator can use in the future to confuse you. Don’t let them make you fall into their trap again. Just stay on truth, and live the way you want to, even though it takes you time to heal and get yourself surrounded by an utmost healthy environment.
Last but not least..
Manipulation is no new in today’s world. Many people do it to some extent. Many are not even aware of what they are doing, and many are aware. If you feel to be a victim of manipulation, first try to learn what kind of manipulation you are facing. Then, take the necessary steps towards healing accordingly. Remember, you cannot recover until you recognize what you are facing and what is the extent of your trauma.