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Meaning Of Self-care

For me ::
♡Self-care is maturity
♡Self-care is self-love
♡Self-care is valuing yourself
♡Self-care is cherishing yourself instead of waiting for someone else to spoon feed you
♡Self-care is professionalism
♡Self-care is presentation
♡Self-care is growth
Self-care is a lot and something really really important.

Taking care of yourself , not necessarily just means providing yourself bougie dinners or something. It is a lot more . Its not just working out or applying skincare every night . These surely do come under self-care but I feel there's a lot more.
Taking care of yourself is randomly wearing your favorite outfit on the day you are feeling low , it is telling yourself that you are perfect just the way you are , its about getting comfortable in your skin and body .
Self-care comes from inside out .
The famous supermodel Bella Hadid once said in her interview that she didn't become beautiful until she really saw herself as a beauty . She kept feeling pretty down and ugly majority of her life , leading to insecurities and depression. She said that "the day I really saw myself flawless was the day I really became one" .

Its really important to cherish and value yourself. Its important to know that at the end of the day you are your priority and the person you love the most , find the most attractive and highly capable of everything is ♡YOU♡ .

Self care means taking out quality time for yourself. Its not letting anyone feel you the way you don't want to. Its filling yourself with lots of positive energy and attaining your divine form . Being peaceful at mind and heart . Being kind and attracting what's kind and generous.

For me this is self care , taking care of yourself the way you would of your own child as a father or a mother .

Lack Of Self-care

In today's era , self-care and self-love is promoted a lot but its a fact that its being ignored equally. Us humans don't often understand that we need to love ourselves more than anyone and that's important and beautiful (not selfish) .
Lives are getting too busy and people are looking more forward to co-dependency instead of self dependency .

Messed Up Definition Of Self-acceptance

Also one more thing , I feel that sometimes social media truly messes the meaning of self-care or self-acceptance.
Some people think that having 200lbs weight and then not doing anything about it is ok . Its self love . No ! , darling no!.
No offense to anyone but this isn't self love only because "It Isn't Healthy". If you love your child you scold them and make them right and not just accept every wrong doing . The same way if one loves himself/ herself then they will do everything in their positive capabilities to keep things beautiful, right and long living .

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Some of them are ::

1)Treat yourself as if you are treating someone very special to you or someone you love very much. I would rather say , treat yourself as your own innocent child .

2)Always maintain a boundary between yourself and others, so that people don't interfere in your life and suck up your energy.

3)Feel things in the way you want to feel them. Don't try to feel what others say. Never let yourself get masked up . Discover yourself, give yourself time and truly explore yourself. Get surety of what you are and how you are . What you like and what you just don't. Don't let your feelings get masked up by other's words .

4)Set a fixed time for rest in which you only take care of yourself. Have a personal time and personal space for yourself. Get a break and treat yourself like a human .

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Loving yourself is not selfish at all . Not loving yourself is selfish. Just imagine what you are and how little of you , if you can't offer love to yourself only , the kne who has the first right over your love and care . If you can't love yourself, you can't love anyone . Self-care is mever selfish its needed . It depicts how much you love YOU . how much efforts can you actually put for making your life easy . And even if its considered selfish then let it be . Some wise women have said "its good to be selfish sometimes ."
Some people feel that self-care is a way of giving too much importance to oneself. Just think, if you do not pay attention to yourself, then how will you keep the environment around you healthy and happy.

The basic mantra to live a healthy and happy life is to love yourself. The one who caught the deep essence of it has made his life easier. Loving yourself means keeping yourself healthy, taking care of yourself in other ways and finding ways to be happy. But in our busy lives, we do not pay attention to these things. Due to which nowadays people are becoming victims of anger, stress and anxiety.

Cc- @khursheedanwar

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India, February 17,2024
@moyeon