“Raising boys and girls”

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Am happy to hop in on this contest, the topic is one that really looks interesting and of course engaging.
Without mincing words, I would love to drop my two cents as touching this subject, I just hope y'all find my entry interesting. Let's get into it friends.

Introduction

God in His design has made every creature male and female including human being. It was a well thought out idea by God and the fascinating thing about these gender is that they are both unique in their way.

Variety, they say is the spice of life.
I wonder what the world would look like if there were no male or what it would look like if it were just female... I guess you don't want to imagine this...the world would be some boring location beneath the heavens. Now to the question for the day...

Should boys and girls be raised in the exact same way?

My answer to this will definitely be an emphatic NO, surprised I guess...smiles. Anyway do not be quick to challenge my opinion as we are all entitled to one. I would do well to explain myself, stating the reason for my take. Let's just see what we can learn from ourselves even as we explore this topic under the following sub-heading.

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• Frame

I would like to start my argument using this point. A girl is physically fragile by nature, you can only find few exceptions, maybe one out of ten who seem to very strong on the outside. While on the other hand a boy is physically strong and agile.

Knowing this gives us a perspective on how they should be handled. If I then begin to handle a lady the way I should handle a boy, I would be altering the nature of that girl making life a bit difficult for her and on the other hand if I handle a boy the way I would a lady, I wouldn't be helping the young boy as he doesn't have that frame just for fun.

He has to be taught how to handle tough situations and how to take the bull by the horn in most of the situation he finds himself. His physical frame and features are for a purpose, he was designed to be strong to complement the other gender in her area of inadequacies and not to be exactly like the other gender (girl)

Another thing I would like to add here is that their frames also gives more reason why a girl child should be given much more privacy and attention and also taught the same than the boys. A boy could go shirtless...even up to his short and walk freely on the street, to some boys, it's just fun but a lady would not.

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A girl child would have to be taught differently on how to handle her body, most especially, the sensitive part of her body. Keeping them from being exposed.

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• Inherent Values/Expression

When picturing my argument from this lens, you would quite agree with me that a girl child has some inherent attribute which finds expression by default, sometimes they do not even learn some of these things before you see them exhibiting it ,such as carriage (their walking posture, dressing, sitting posture), the way they communicate and express themselves, their body language etc.

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The same applies to the boys, if you're not discerning enough to know that these gender have these inherent attribute and then treat them as such, their growth and development will be lopsided. I've seen girls that looks like macho, I mean boys...in this part of the world (Nigeria) we call them Tomboy.

Tomboy simply means, a girl that acts and behave exactly like a boy...in his sitting posture, dressing, expressions and communication, body language and all. The girl child is not designed to function that way.

Such child could have grown up in a home where there are more boy in the home or all boys. It could also be that the girl child wasn't given so much attention amidst the boys so he had to just grow up behaving like them.

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• Perspective/wiring

Raising a boy and a girl the exact same way without considering this point would also be catastrophic. For example, generically, girls like to talk and are very expressive, they talk more than they actually think or ponder on issues most times.

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A young boy is very calculative and talk less. If you as a parent notices your girls talk more and not as reserved in speech like your boys... and then decide to check her, you would alter her nature in the long run.Same applies to the guy.

He is configured to think more than he talks. If you try to make him talk like the girl child, you might also alter his make up. The worst of all is when you try to make both of them act uniformly in a way and manner contrary to their make up. It's a No No.

I would have loved to add up more point but then am just being careful I do not end up making this post uneccesarily long and then bore you in the process.

Conclusion

Raising boys and girls is a task that has to be done skillfully and tactically, it's not a one way thing, we need to understand that both gender are unique and must be treated as such.

Failing to understand both gender properly is what brings about the error of raising them the same way.
I will love to wrap it up here. Permit me to invite my good friends @rakiya @waqarahmadshah . Gracias

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Regards
@lhorgic♥️

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