ProWritersHub (W-4) : How traditional marriage is being performed in my hometown , community and city_@sureway044

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Hello Awesome Steemian's ,

Worthy of note . It not really mean and matter one tribe , language and traditional culture heritage. What really do matters is that marriage is , being traced from the very first man . When God Himself created to him help mate. From then and indeed people have engaged in marriage as, an institution ordained by God Himself.

Truth is that , in reality there are difference ways people . Did go about marriage Dowry , and that of my town is no different.

Here I would relates closely on how traditional marriage is being performed in my hometown. And that of community and as well my city.

In my very hometown there are a very strict marriage rite depending, on the nature of the wife to be place or position in her family.

Thing is if the wife to be is a first daughter in the family. Things to offer for her as marriage rites involved . Is going to be very huge , and on various steps or stages .

But , if it get happening that wife to be is a second daughter and all that follows like that. Would not get to be much compared to that of a first daughter in a family.

As I get to have that ,very plain and known. Facts is that , I personally don't grown up in my hometown . And never witness one by experience factor.

But nonetheless , I did heard it discussed so based on such factor . I would relates to my best knowledge in reality terms.

First Stage Involve : This first step towards getting to make your intentions known to the family , of your wife to be . That mainly after getting to know exact lady you want to get married to. And at time getting into relationship together . While in a very rare and hardly exist now a days , might happen that someone get to lead you to know the family. That for the very first time just to make your marriage intention known to the family of a , lady you never met , nor get to date neither ever into relationship with. But while seen might get to like as described. Those a some sort of outright formalities.

Upon all of that , either ways . You did get into your wife to be compound or family compound . And meet her parent's mainly or her few informed family relatives or people . There you acknowledge your intentions before them . Then , if they get to welcome you specially and accepted you proposal to married their daughter .

There what you get to give them just for your intentions acknowledgement , is very minimal. Just a bottle of hot native drink and possibly a bottle of wine along .

Then they would informed you , what to do next . Which is to get back to collect dowry or marriage rites list . On dual agreed upon date.

Second Stage Involve : This hast to deal with the acknowledge husband or inlaw to be . Getting return to collect dowry or marriage rites items contents list.

So when gotten there , what they expected of you to bring so as to enable you get . The list from the family , is as well not much just :

• Grate of mix menerals (01)

• Grate of beer mainly champion (01)

• Grate of another beer this one 333(01)

• Grate of malt drink (01)

• One bottle of hot and one of optional wine

When given that , then the list would be handed to the acknowledge husband to be .

Now , next step should be opportunity given to the husband to be . Perhaps if he does not get favour by the given list . Can the have his opportunity to return next time for list debate . But if the husband to be hast money very well , and get to see all the items as Kobo Kobo . Would get shone the list debate and get to another stage .

Third Stage Involve : From the list if is first daughter it would , get more huge that should get note . Because there is often special rituals for first daughter.

For the rest girls in the family . This stage usually now Nkok Udok or knock for door kind of rites.

On this very stage there are numbers of items to be given by the husband to be . At most 🐐 goats don't suppose to involved here , while some family do collect goat.

After this very stage is the main marriage or dowry related rituals .

Final Stage Involve :
On the final stage the categories in which all the needed items to be given , by inlaw to be are as follows :

• Extended or compound family things , this comprised all known relatives to wife to be family. Her connected families by bloodline

• Father things

• Mother things

• Community or village youth things

On this final stage those things required from the husband to be are , as I did listed in four difference categories .

In which I wouldn't get to list them one after the other , but in brief terms.

Family relatives : This very aspect is about all the connected relations of the wife to be family.

Their own is very important portion from the marriage items . Once their own being given the marriage traditionally hast finished. Because the main dowry items is in this formed.

Items required here :

• Goat

• Tubers of yam at least five

• Debatable grates of minerals

• Debatable grates of beer of such brand as champion and 333

• Palm wine at least 30litres

• Native hots drink and others drinks

• Cola and all of that ...

Father's and mother things in marriage is necessary but always with kind of understanding, with the acknowledge inlaw to be.

Another serious one in marriage dowry is that of youths things.

Food , music and cloth style on the entertainment day : Truth is apart from the first , second and third stage .

Any day within the final marriage stage as I have them accordingly as seen above. There usually lots of food for every one , at times all available local and traditional foods .

Style of clothes is normally native sew fashioned kind of dressed.

Music can be a disco or a contracted dj or can be even live local band.

Here in my hometown marriage is being taken very , very serious. But they also do note that , they are not selling out their daughter.