SteemAlive Presents: "Sucker Punch". A personal story of top 3 Challenges currently eating away your life. 30 Steem Prize by @ladyofpolicy

Greetings beautiful family of mine,how is life treating all if us this period? How are you all coping with this constant rain?
I wish to let all my friends and family in @steemalive community know that I so much love and cherish them,if it's possible to huge each person I will gladly do it because we all are fighters and at the same time we are strong😘😘😘.....

INTRODUCTION

Coming online to see this topic was really a hearty surprise for me because I never thought a day would come where I will have to explode what wants to kill me inside to people who so much care about each other,indeed love lives here.

We live in a country where people live fake lives. The smile,the dress,the laughter,the joke virtually everything is fake and yes we still try to cover up that it's real.

"Sucker Punch" indeed,too deep to explain with casual words. Check out the sinero where you never expect anything order than positive result and boom from no where it turns out negative,that's a sucker Punch .You didn't plan it and you weren't expecting it and yet it happened,that's sucker Punch. For instance you never thought that when you sleep and wake up,the head of the family will be dead,only for you to wake up in the morning to see that the father is dead,it's indeed a big punch.
I believe you've understood what a sucker Punch means by my illustration.

My personal top 3 challenges that is currently eating me up

Each an everyone of us has one thing or the other that bothers us and such challenges can lead to depression,do well to read up mine.

1. THE FEAR OF DYING WITHOUT DISCOVERING MY TRUE IDENTIFY.

This is the story of many people out there,but who can they share this problem with. Identity crises is one thing that is eating me up. Am a young girl who happened to grow up without my biological parents but my grandparents took proper care of me,oh yes I grew up in the village with my grand parents.

How did it began?

It began with the fact that I was born out of wedlock. It began with the fact that there are too many hidden stories about my birth father which is still a secret till date. I was born on the 28th of August,1999 without any trace of my father and my mum left me at my 8th month,I guess that's why am this strong lol💪💪💪💪,and until now it continues because I haven't figured out the story behind my birth.

For how long have you been through this challenge?

Considering my age,this challenge has lasted from birth till date which is a whole 21years.

What difficulties have this particular problem caused you/ your family

• From the stories I've heard, my birth brought about a lot of stigma to my family that my mum couldn't bear it so she had to run away from village.

• Also at the time of my birth it was a big atrocity to give birth out of wedlock so my grandparents were punished severely because they fail in their duty as parents to my mum.

• Because of the shame I pain I caused them, my uncle's hate me so much and maltreated me to the extent that I had to run away from home at the age of 15.

• The trauma from childhood experiences made me suffer from inferiority complex and low self esteem which is still affecting me slightly till date.

What have you to solve it or cope?

Well coping with an unknown identity isn't an easy task for someone like me but unfortunately there is nothing I can do. I've tried asking questions severally about the past and my mum and uncles wouldn't talk about it so what can I do, I channel the energy of solving what I don't have the solution into something better and replace the thought with something better like improving myself and becoming a successful and powerful lady. Finally, I hand the case over to God to take care of it, maybe someday I can easily get the answers I've been seeking for.

The help I need about this situation

I really need as much support as possible from this awesome community in terms of advice , checkup, guidance and instructions because I really lack most of these things and I know that there are parents, brothers, sisters and friends in this community that can help me with my wish.

2. THE FEAR OF NOT GOING TO THE UNIVERSITY TO FULFIL MY DREAMS.

Education is one thing I so much love in this life and I vowed in my life that before I turned 21years that I will be a graduate but I couldn't fulfil my dreams though it's not yet too late.

How did it began?

Being one of the brightest student in my primary and secondary school days, I was promoted by my head mistress to write common entrance examination in my Basic 5 class which I did and passed and also I was advised by my principal in secondary school to write WAEC when I was in SSS3 which I did and passed in one sitting, altogether I came out from secondary at the age of 15 hoping to go further before the sucker Punch hit me had to I lost my sponsors to the cold arms of death, leaving me to sort life myself.

For how long have you been through this challenge

It all started when I lost my grandfather and his younger brother, a police man that took the responsibility of training me, my grandmother's younger brother and wife (all my sponsors) within the space of 1year and it has lasted till date. It's been a rough 6years of facing this challenge all by myself 💪💪💪💪.

What difficulties have this particular problem caused for caused you/your family

This particular challenge has indeed dealt with me in so many ways;

• It have led me to depression even attempted suicidea countless number of time because I have no one to talk to most time.

• Watching someone I wrote WAEC for graduate while I haven't gone to school yet have made me felt rejected and abandoned and worthless severally.

• In my strive to survive, I've made so many mistakes, in my quest to be a graduate I've taken so many actions that still didn't pay off which still make me to live in regret.

• Although I learnt how to be independent because of this challenge, at the same time I developed the habit of being bossy which everyone complains of and I wish to stop but don't know how to.

What have you done to solve it or cope?

Talking about solutions I've tried all I think o know and currently am out of option if not for steemit.

• First, I went to do teaching work without payment because my boss promised to send me to school but after a year, he sacked me..... What a cruel world!!!!!

• I ran to a man because of the promises of help but he wanted to forcefully turn me into a full time house wife at a very tender age,but my childhood experiences made me run away.

• I've hawked stuffs,did sales girls work,did farm work even tried house help just to go to school but instead I end up spending the money on my grandmother.

• Finally,after discovering steemit I felt like it's an answer to my prayers so I set a six months plan for myself to raise the minimum of 200SBD to use and sponsor myself in school by next year and indeed this option is sailing gradually.

The help I need about this challenge

Indeed, this community has been of a very good help to me since I joined steemit platform but still I will be needing all the help I can get from this community in terms of words of encouragement, plans, prayers, ideas and more opportunities that can help me actualize my dreams and fulfil my grandfather's last wish "make sure you go to school, my child".

3. PAYING BACK THE LOAN I SIGN AS A GRANTOR FOR MY FRIEND.

Indeed if my soft heart doesn't land me into big time trouble then am so lucky. Signing as a grantor for someone has too many disadvantages.

How did it began?

Sometime in April, a friend if mine who is a final year student asked me for help financially in order to do his project work and I took him to the place I got loan from and signed as a grantor for him and he got the loan with terms and condition applied which until now I haven't heard from him nor seen him.

For how long have you been through this challenge?

I got the loan in the month of April 2021 which is roughly 4months now and this month is the deadline for the payment of the loan.

What difficulties have this challenges caused for you/family.

• First, it has tampered with my trust and I doubt if I can trust someone enough in this life again to take such rush for the person.

• Secondly, it plays a major role in ruining my budget and plan monthly because from that time till now I've been the one paying the interest monthly.

• It have gotten my mother involved because the person have to call her and told her everything and as a result of that am having a fallout with my mother., 😭😭😭

• The thought of paying back a huge amount of money (150,000 naira) that I didn't spend has been giving me sleepless nights.

What have you done to solve it or cope?

It only take Grace to cope and stay happy with this type of situation.

• I've been trying my best to pay the person interest monthly so that the money will not increase more than it is already.

• I've been able to trace the guys family and made a report to his parents with the proof of the loan and they promised to do something about it.

• Finally, I've been working hard on steemit to make sure this doesn't drag my name and reputation to the mull.

The help that I need about this

I need help from anyone who can extent a helping hand to me either by supporting me with any token to pay the loan or even with a strong advice on how to go about this issue.

A little help extended to someone can go a long way.

Its important to know that people are moving about with a lot of baggages and still act like nothing is wrong, do well to minimize how you use hurtful words around people and always review each word or action you take in order to make sure that no one is getting hurt by what you said or did.

Try to smile more often and huge people if you can, they are really going through a lot.

Thanks for reading my post, I love you all and until we meet again, you're the best💝💝💝💝

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