Steemalive Presents Prowriters Hub w4; How Traditional Marriage is Performed in my hometown,city or community.
Introduction
The traditional marriage of daughters in the family comes with so much happiness and lots of celebration both from the bride's family and groom's family.
Hello friends, will be talking about how traditional marriage is performed in my hometown.
Traditional Marriage Rite
Tradition is the way of life of some people, different traditional rites differs in different hometown, some tradition may choose to do Introduction and submission of bride price list and go ahead with white wedding or court wedding. It depends on hometown culture. The union between two individuals starts with courtship, mutual interest and love. If the two individuals are compatible with each other, they could decide to seal it with marriage.
Things Required From The Husband To Be
Once consent have been secured from the bride's immediate family and kensmen, the husband to be processed in getting the items on the pride price and the date for the traditional marriage is fixed. Some of the items are as follows:
20 tubers of yam
Wrapper
Goat
Chicken
Palm wine
Kolanut
Garden egg
Dry gin etc.
The husband to be is also required to take care of some of the expenses of the traditional marriage ceremony.
How the actual marriage is Performed
My hometown which is Aboh Mbaise, the traditional marriage rites which begins with "Iju Ajuju" when a young man wants to settle down with an mbaise woman, he goes to ask questions and finds out about the immediate family of the girl. Questions such as:
What kind of people they are?
Are they susceptible to madness or illness?
Are they thieves?
Do they have a particular sickness in their lineage?
Are their women well behaved?
What they are known in the community?
After the Iju Ajuju and the findings are positive about the girl, the groom family proceed to meeting the bride's family.
The groom goes to the bride's family to lay down his intentions towards marrying their daughter with his immediate family or accompanied by his father. The groom father will say "we saw a beautiful flower in your compound and we have come to plug it". The groom will state his intentions and the girl is called out by her parents to find out her own opinions towards her suitor and if she knows her suitor and would want to marry him. If her reply is positive, they would proceed to the next stage.
The next stage, the meeting between the groom's family and the bride's extended family which is known as "umunna" ( kinsmen). The groom's family restate their interest of marrying their daughter in the presence of the umunna. Once their consent have being accepted, the date of the traditional marriage is fixed (Igba nkwu) and the bride price list is sent out. Drinks and kola is being shared. The second visit, the groom to be proceeds with the bride price negotiation and payment.
The final stage, which is the Igba nkwu nwanyi the ceremony is done at the bride's family and the bride's family host the groom's family, friends and well wisher, at the ceremony the groom will present the bride price list and items.
The bride's first outing comes out to greet friends and we'll wishers and in-laws.
The second outing, which is the highlights of the event, the bride's father prays and shower blessings and bestow the bride with a cup of palm wine to go find her husband and give it to the man she intends to spend the rest of her life with, the bride dances with the cup of wine round the compound looking for her husband and being willed by other young man. When she finds her husband, she kneels and present the cup of palm wine to her husband, the groom drinks which means he have accepted her as his wife, the couple dances and kneel in front of the bride's father as they receive prayers and multiple blessings.
Food served during the ceremony
Different kinds of food and drinks are being served during the ceremony such as
Joff rice
Pepper soup
Fried rice
Soups like
Egusi soup
Vegetable soup etc
Music played during the ceremony
Different cultural music are being played during the ceremony, the highlights is when the bride is looking for the husband, the music makes the bride to dance happy and do small shakara.
The couple wear the same cultural attire and the same color combination, that distinguishes them from others that came for the ceremony.
The first outing cloth which the bride uses to greet friends and well wishers and it's being adorned with beads both on her hair and neck.
The second outing cloth which the bride wears the same attire with the husband is being accompanied with her shoe,gele, purse, and handfan takes the same color.
The groom's attire goes with his shoe, cap and staff to match and beads on his neck and hand.
Conclusion
Marriage is a good thing and comes with so much happiness and joy from the both families. And it's the right thing to do instead of having a wife without doing the necessary marriage rites but still living together. It adds more values to the society and brings good virtues.
You are right I love traditions, they give me a sense of belonging. There are some traditions that I would not want to live by, but the point is that different traditions vary in different homes.
That's true, there are some traditions that are so deadly and unGodly that even th people don't like/live by it
Yeah and peoples are still following that Traditions without any reasons they are following them blindly now we should be aware what you say about it dear brother
Informative write up. Keep it up.
Yes dear, traditional marriage is really fun more than any other marriage although in some villages it's very expressive to run.
There are lots of gifts present to be given to people and also their foods and drinks.
Every culture has their own set of traditions that are followed by their people. Some of these traditions are very similar to one another, while others are very different. One tradition that is very different from the other
Traditional marriage is a commitment between two people who have decided to be together forever. It is the idea that marriage is a union between one man and one woman, and in this union, there are certain roles that each person must play in order to be successful.
Yes on traditional marriage the couple's really receive amazing properties from there parents and they use this properties to start up there own family
Traditional marriage is really interesting in every part of Nigeria because of the amazing dresses that are worn during this marriage and also the type of meals consumed also makes traditional marriage awesome
Traditional rites are the way of life for some people. Different traditional rites differ in different homes. For example, in some homes, it is tradition to do a certain thing on a certain day. For example, in some homes, it is tradition to do a certain thing on a certain day. In some homes, it is tradition to eat rice for breakfast. However, in other homes, it is tradition to eat bread for breakfast.
Marriage differs according to culture and every body has the way there culture perform there marriage rites.
Thanks
Yess in different cultures has different traditions we can't say bad to anyone we should just follow our trend and enjoy our life without any controversy
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Your town has a great tradition. That 'iju ajuju' is very important because many marriages are destroyed because they never found out if the person they wish to many has mental issues. Some families has deadly family traits. It's very necessary. Well done. Your entry is great.
The traditional marriage is one where the husband and wife are legally united, in order to be able to make decisions and take care of the children.
Thank you very much, will keep making great articles
There traditional marriage is really awesome and amazing. I will go and marry there because I love there tradition
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