Why You Keep Dating/Attracting The Wrong Partner // By @cross75
Do you always find yourself dating bad (abusive, unfaithful) guys? Or always attracting bad guys? Please take your time and go through my content as i take you through some reasons why you end up dating thd erong partner.
- You have No Boundaries or Standards
Boundaries or standards are important, they define who you are (Identity) what you will accept or not accept also serves as a PROTECTION.
having no boundaries or standards means any thing or any man goes, as far as it is man. Character or no character, mature or not, you meet a guy today and tomorrow you are daring him, next tomorrow you are sleeping over at his place and supplying him sex like food.
Cant you see you have no boundaries and standards like that?.
- You Dont Know What Exactly You Want Or Need
knowing the type of guy or lady you dont want is the first step in knowing and getting the type of partner you want.
Without clarity as to what you want, and what you dont want, chances are very high of you accepting the very partner you should turn down.
- You Date For The Wrong Reasons
Making reasons like money, he is cute, i dont to be alone or single, he is every other girls dream ( what of your own dream) as your primary rrason for dating.
Or you are so desperate to be in a relationship without taking time to determine other key things like his character (spiritual first, then other character aspects) will see you dating wrong partner back to back.
- You Haven't Dealt With Your Baggage
Baggage like character defects, past experience, attitudinal issues, wrong dressing choice act as signals that can attract the wrong partners and repel thd right ones.
Take dressing for instance, it is not matter of spiritual husband or deliverance problem, there is a way you will dress and you are more likely to keep attracting men who just want to have sex with you and leave.
- You Think you Do Not Deserve Better
You accept the treatment you get, either for self esteem issues or misinformation, when you think you do not really deserve good partner, you will accept and settle repeatedly for the wrong ones.
- Wrong Ideologies
"All men cheat"
"All men are the same"
"Violence in a relationship is normal"
If you have these ideologies, you wont see anything wrong in accepting to date a partner you know very well you shouldnt.
- You Are A Bad Partner
Well to a good extent, you attract your kind.
As some one who parties, drinks, smoke, double dates, sees nothing wrong with fornication, etc you will keep attracting partners like yourself.
Its not enough to want a good and God fearing partner, first are you good and God fearing? You cant be a bad partner and attract a good partner.
You need to change yourself first, change the criteria you use in intervieeing or accepting partners and change your ideologies about relationship if you will stop attracting bad or wrong partners.
Thank You For Reading Through
Cc: @steemalive
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Written by: @cross75
For: @steemalive