Why you should nurture your life first before nurturing a relationship Entry by @austinmudi
[source]. Greetings every one in steemit family, am happy to make a post here in steemalive community again and I appreciate this opportunity. From my one view, I will be discussing on why one should nurture his life before nurturing a relationship most especially the male.
It is very difficult to get love when you have no money. Even friends abordone us when we are broke not to talk of relationship. That's just the truth even the independent ladies who don't want your money would want would want someone who is settled in life. For them, finding a partner is finding who is fits into their life style and plans for the future. That includes things that cost money . Below are the reasons why broke men should nurture their life first before nurturing a relationship, that is reason why relationship is not advisable for now.
6 REASONS WHY BROKE MEN SHOULD NURTURE THEIR LIFE FIRST BEFORE NURTURING A RELATIONSHIP.
Brokenness is the state at which one is not financially buoyant to get what he/she wants or needs. Inability to get medicine on time, pay bills and bring food to the table. So here I will point out seven good points why a broke man should nurture his life first using experience as a case study. Tho people say experience is not always the best teacher but I still think there are some lessons to be learnt.
1 YOU ARE NOT READY FOR IT.
You may want it but honestly you don't need it. You need to be thinking of a master plan. You need to reprioritize your life and get busy with it. Any body who is having some financial struggle needs to be focused on getting that together thank date. There was this year I didn't date at all after an heart break , I was able to achieve alot that year because there was no responsibility on me and I was able to focus. How ever, if you already have a woman who is loyal to you while you are still broke, it is advisable you remain loyal to her and not cheat because you may not find her type forever.
2 YOUR MONEY WILL BE BRUISED:
Money does matter in our society, a person's ability to eat and look good and get medicine in time of need and take care of your woman are the basic things that makes one a man. Think about it, she called you on phone and ask for money and you give her the same answer " I don't have ". Then you found out much later that she some how got the money. You ask and was told that she got it from another man. Your heart is darned if he is one of her admirers that you are aware of. There was this time I bought gift for my ex then she knelt down to thank me, through out the week she even offered to help me wash clothes.
Brokeness is not good at all, even in my family, nobody will respect you if you have no money, this money I'm talking about is not until you build house, but car, or live in a mansion. No, but your ability to get what you want and need and perform your responsibilities on time.
3 IT IS A DISTRACTION.
A broke man needs all the time in the world alone to sort out things and having a woman who will add some few loads to his already bent shoulder will do him no good. Don't tell me he needs a woman's support because a good female friend supports one more than his girl friend. One of the major thing that has push many of the Nigeria men to illegal business apart from Nigeria economy is the urge to satisfy their woman. Especially in Nigeria where girlfriend will be expecting you to paint the sky on her birthday, isn't that a distraction to you a broke man? Although there are still women that support their man yes there are alot of them infact I have seen a woman that set up a business for her man and even pay for his bills but the problem is that some men are still ingrate as they would still cheat and betray the woman and this is why ladies of nowadays don't want to support their man.
4: YOU WILL BE CHEATED.
Girls have the habit of getting bored of things quickly, this is due to who they are, which is coupled with the pressures of the society. Society always wants them to get the newest and latest things, so one day she will get tired of hoping and waiting and accept that guy who has been disturbing her,she may not tell you about it because she wouldn't want to hurt you so you end up being cheated on. This was the category I belong tho I was shocked because the relationship was the longest of all I ever had, so I got a new SIM and I call her with the SIM she saved it, I open a new WhatsApp account with the new number of course she didn't know the new number I got was already on WhatsApp she would have hide me from viewing her status , to cut long story short, I was heart broken with what I saw. This was the same woman I thought was loyal and live me for who I am and when I ask her why she was crying, she said she is tired of " I don't have" she has been cheating on me for long and I was blinded by love to notice because I trusted her.
Relationship is always sweet at first but trust me when the relationship last for six months, you begin to notice loopholes and the loopholes include your brokeness. You don't need money to start a relationship but you need money to build it
5 YOU WILL BE FRIEND ZONE.
She likes you but cannot continue to date you because you can not take care of her needs. So she will friend zone you in other not to loose you completely. At least there is something you are good at and she will keep your friendship because of that.
6 SHE WONT FEEL LOVED.
Since traditionally men are the ones that pays for dates, it is impossible then to prove your love when there is no money. How can you surprise her? How can you take her out on a date or buy her gift? How can you say you love her when she can not rely on you when she is broke? Like I said earlier, it is not until you have big money but at least little change can go a long way . If she tells you "I m not interested in your money" that statement is scam, even rich women still collect money from there man. As a broke man who is still struggling to meet ends , you need to get rid of that and focus. If you don't support her, she will eventually get tired of hoping and give up. Your bottom will be dumped. Sorry!
ADVICE FOR BROKE MEN.
Right now , some people will be like am trying to say we should not date because there is no money "No. That is not my point, my point is that you should not carry a woman's responsibilities on your head when you are still struggling to meet ends in life. Most of us are afraid of heartbreak so we go extra mile to satisfy woman. I just want you to take things easy in life . This life is stage by stage, don't kill your self because of woman or may be you are afraid that she will dumped you . The truth is you can't know the value of what you are missing until you loose some thing . If you go and still Because of a woman and you are caught and sent to prison, I hope you understand that another man will continue From Where you stop. Nurture your life , become a better person first before nurturing a relationship.
IN CONCLUSION
I know that all people deserve to be loved no matter who or what they are but money is very important in every relationship so I think a man that can not afford to date needs to wait. Don't go into relationship because your friends are into it or because of social media posts. Do it when you are ready and can afford it. Remember the major challenge here is money , so please try as much as possible to build your life to a particular stage first before building a relationship, double your hustle, be contented with what you have but never be satisfied, aim higher, double your hustle in a legitimate way, work hard and put more effort. Remember what makes you a man is your responsibilities and no matter how hard you try , you can't run away from your responsibility.
I pray that God provide you with a man)woman of your dreams, I pray God bless the work of your hand, Amen.