Difficulty teaching children

Every parent always hopes that their child will study well. This hope is naturally based on the desire for their child to become a successful person in the future. Therefore, many parents choose a strict study schedule for their children. They create study rules that sometimes make their children feel victimized. They feel deprived of the opportunity to play like children.

As a result, many children feel forced and rebel. This can take various forms. Some become involved in juvenile delinquency. Others become moody and reluctant to study. In cases like this, parents feel frustrated because their child is not easily persuaded to study. Children become resistant when parents force them to study. Studying becomes a frightening prospect for them.

Many children, when forced to study, cry or pretend to study when their parents are present, even though they are not.

They may have a book open on the study table but not read or study it. Or, when they open it, they may find a gadget tucked away in the middle of the book. This acts as a disguise so that parents can see they are studying.

Seeing this reality, parents will feel sad. They feel like they've failed in getting their children to study. They feel like they're struggling to teach them.

I often hear this complaint from parents when consulting about the difficulty of teaching their children.
Many of them even work as teachers. They feel they can make other people's children smart but fail to teach their own.

As a tutoring manager, I want to share with all readers the causes and ways to overcome learning difficulties in children, as I mentioned earlier.

Reasons for the Difficulty Teaching Your Own Child

There are several reasons that make children resistant when asked to study with their parents.

1. Children already know their parents' personalities.

When children are invited to study, they know they will end up getting scolded when they have difficulty learning. They feel that studying with their parents will only lead to this or that prohibition. They feel uncomfortable studying with their father or mother. And unfortunately, children's predictions often come true. Children are scolded by their parents, so they cry and stop studying. They will run away and go to bed to cry, lying face down. When this happens, parents will no longer be able to force their children to study. Because no amount of coercion will work.

2. Have you studied?

When children are asked if they've studied, they usually answer yes. This is used to avoid being told to study by their parents. Many of them cover it up by arranging books according to the next day's schedule. When they see their children busy organizing their schedules, parents immediately believe they've studied without verifying the truth.

3. Running out of energy.

When parents encourage them to study, they're usually already tired from work. Tired parents won't be able to optimally engage their children in studying. Parents often struggle because they've expended a lot of energy at the office or workplace, and when they come home, they find their children still haven't studied, with the intention of encouraging them to study. However, it turns out that children don't learn easily. Seeing this often makes parents frustrated. Especially when trying to give questions that their children can't answer, parents become even more emotional, leading to anger and resentment. Or, a child might ask a question about a topic their parents don't understand. When they can't answer, they become angry.

How to Overcome Difficulties in Teaching Children

Once we understand the causes of difficulties in teaching children, we can determine the best approach. It's important to remember that problem-solving must address the root of the issue to ensure appropriate treatment.
Here are some tips for overcoming children's learning challenges.

1. Be a friend

When encouraging children to study, avoid commanding language. Use inviting language so that children feel accompanied while they study.
If children are ordered to do so, they will feel oppressed and will study only as an obligation.

2. Enforce equal rules.

If children are asked to study, show them that their parents are also studying. Parents can read books so that children feel embarrassed because their parents are studying while their children are not. Don't let children be required to study while their parents are busy watching television or playing with gadgets. This will create a sense of injustice.

3. Expand their knowledge.

With greater knowledge, children will see that their parents were certainly intelligent at their age. Intelligent parents will challenge their children so they are not outmatched.
An effective way is for parents to also read the books their children are studying so they understand the material beforehand. It's better to read them first, but be more knowledgeable so that when your child asks questions, you can answer effectively.

4. Be more patient

Manage your emotions by not getting angry with your child. Anger is not a good way to resolve issues; it can traumatize your child, and we won't be able to successfully encourage them to learn.

5. Give appreciation

When your child studies diligently, give them appreciation. This can take various forms, from praise to gifts or even taking them to fun places. Avoid verbal abuse, but instead, increase praise. Humans naturally thrive on praise. This will also help your child feel valued by others, boosting their self-confidence and fostering a positive learning spirit.

These are some tips I can share. I hope they're helpful and encourage your child to study diligently.

That all my writing this time I hope you enjoy it.

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@rokhani