GIVEAWAY: An upvote for a read |Title: EARN THE RESPECT,Something To Be Earned By Giving It Out, Not Something To Be Demanded. By @pato84.

Introduction

Hearty greetings to my lovely Steemians in @CCC Community. I thank @wakeupkitty.pas for this writing and reading Contest.
In this article I will be sharing my experience with friends of mine concerning his family. After mediated their issue I came up with this write which says EARN THE RESPECTIVE, PLEASE
Let me start by saying this especially to the Married people in the home respect is not to be demanded rather it is to be earned.
My friend's name is Emmanuel and the wife's name is Jennifer. Emmanuel happened to be among my Best Men in suit during my wedding in 2018. And he also eventually got wedded to join the club of Married Men early 2019. And right now they have two kids.
Emmanuel was a banker, he arrived home after a very hectic and highly demanding day at the office, weary and famished. He shook off his shoes, untied his tie, turned on the Television Set and called his wife Jennifer to serve him dinner, but got no response from her. Five minutes gone after his request, the wife stood before him, staring at him.

Jennifer, I just asked for my dinner to be served.

He said to her.

Why don't you go to the kitchen and fix dinner for yourself if you are so hungry.

She retorted

You think you can come home after you have been away the whole day without any communication or whatsoever, and expect me to fix you dinner after the long day I had at the office, then the superstore and back home to take care of the kids. You relax as if you're the master and I am a servant. I told you I was feeling pains all over my body before you left for work this morning, but you cared less about it because your so-called 'urgent appointment with a client' was more important than your wife's health. Not even a phone call while in the office since morning to find out how I was faring; and now you want to your dinner. I repeat go to the kitchen and fix your dinner for yourself-

Emmanuel interrupted her:

I forbid you to address me that way! I am your husband, and you will respect me!

Jennifer's direspect for Emmanuel actually started when she began to sense that he was indifferent band insensitive to her plight and needs. Emmanuel was all about work. He never assisted his wife in domestic duties and every other house chores or in looking after the kids, even when he was at home on weekends or when he was on leave. He just sat around vthe house, or watch Television. Even when going to church sometimes, he just took off his car without taking his family along, because he felt they would make him go late. Helping in preparing his kids for church or school, or waiting patiently for the wife to get ready was never in his agenda neither was is it part of his programme.
Aside from his indifference and insensitivity to the plight of his wife, Emmanuel often neglected some of the duties he should perform as the husband/man in the house.Duties such as taking the car to the mechanic's workshop, changing flat tyres, fixing the washing machine and other male-oriented jobs were left for his wife most times. She tried to point out to him his insensitivity and negligence, but he always form bossy and justified his actions, claiming that domestic duties were the wife's exclusive responsibility. He believed his own responsibility was to be the BREADWINNER of the family, period.
This disposition towards his wife irritated and infuriated her, and she gradually lost respect for him. The situation degenerated into an ugly one when she started disrespecting him even in public she will talk back at him. And in his own way of dealing with the problem, Emmanuel decided to assert himself by demanding she respected him as the man. At one instance, he drove her right back home in anger when they were just a Stone's throw to the church, and insisted she got to the church by herself with the kids, as a punishment for disrespecting him on the way . Before then, he had walked out on her while shopping together in a superstore, leaving her to pay the bills because she talked down on him. As his final move to putting his foot down, he reported her the pastor that wedded them who eventually counselled both of that love, trust and mutual respect were the ingredients that make a marriage relationship ever successful. The pastor particularly told the woman never to starve her husband. The couple took the counsel of the pastor to heart and patched things up with each other. Now, they're in a rapturous state of conjugal happiness.

All that women really want is to be loved and cared for, and all that men really want is to be respected

is a well-known cliche from which we can make several inferences.
One, women look to their husbands primarily for love, and men ultimately desire respect from their wives.
Two, men who love their wives tend to be respected, and women who respect their husbands tend to receive love.
Three, the best way for a man to get what he needs from his wife is to both give her what she needs and what he needs.
Though generalization are seldom ironclad, there is a lot of truth in these deductions. They go a long way to explain the compromises women and men make, and the desperate lengths they go while looking for love and respect. Besides, they corroborate the scriptural injunctions,

Wives submit yourselves into your own husbands , as unto the Lord, and husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it. (Ephesians 5:22,25)

The Menfolk And Respect Vs The Golden Rule

Like My Friend Emmanuel, respect is a big deal for men the world over. Generally, men don't handle disrespect too well especially when it comes from their wives. But

Respect is reciprocal.

says another old cliche. It doesn't fall out from the sky, it's mostly something you have to earn. Everyone is worthy of respect as an individual, because every human being is created in God's image with a purpose and place in life. If you operate by this standard you will dignify others by treating them as you wish to be treated yourself, and that is what the Gold Rule is all about:

Do unto others as you would want them to do to you. (Matthew 7:12).

If you don't operate by this standard, you demean and dismiss others according to your own prejudice, and you know what:

What goes around comes around.

Esteemed Regards
@pato84