English translation Webopt:
When we get along with others, we should pay attention to our words and actions, and do not let our casual talk affect other people's lives and work. We should not disturb others when they are inconvenient, when they are busy, when they are sick, or when they are in a bad mood, so as not to add to their worries.
The Disciple's Rule also advocates, "If people are not idle, do not disturb them. When people are restless, do not disturb them with your words."
We should not disturb others when they are very busy and have no time. When someone is in a bad mood or in bad health, we should not add to his worries by making idle remarks.
The Disciple's Rule suggests that it is a virtue of being a human being to have a good relationship with others, and we should always be careful that our words and actions do not interfere with the normal life and work of others.
If we are always self-centered and can't think about the other person, for example, if we want to ask for help (to do an errand or talk), we will disturb the other person without seeing if it is convenient for them.
We must learn to observe in the usual life, not waiting for others to say, we must be able to see what he needs, what he does not need. Even if they are close relatives, in and out, we have to stand in each other's feelings to envision, so that we can naturally get along very well.
"People are not idle, do not stir things up. If people are restless, don't disturb them with your words." Our kindness to others should be reflected in various actions, not often hanging on the mouth, we are good to others is not just talk, but when we encounter things, we should know how to start from the perspective of others, more consideration for others, do not make things difficult for others. If we don't get along well with others, we have to start more from ourselves, consider where we have done wrong and correct it.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Emperor Ming of Wei was in a very bad mood and sad because his daughter had died. He decided to bury his daughter properly and went to mourn personally. Yang Fu, a minister in the court, heard about this and said to Emperor Wei Ming that it was very improper for him to act in this way because he did not personally go to the cemetery when the late Emperor and Empress Dowager died. Emperor Wei Ming also felt that what Yang Fu said made sense, but at that time he was in a very bad mood, and he really didn't want to hear Yang Fu keep nagging himself about this matter, so he threw Yang Fu out of the court, and Yang Fu's ill-timed persuasion got a bad end.
Very often, when we see our loved ones or friends in a bad mood, we are very anxious to help them get out of the situation quickly, so we are always eager to express our concern. But we should understand at that time, our loved ones may need to think alone, we can pour them a cup of hot water, give them a quiet space, let them think about their own things. Caring for others is a matter of method. We need to think and see things from other people's point of view, and we need to know how to think differently.
In short, we have to be good observers and not to bother others easily. Sometimes we want to talk to others, but to see if others have the time and mood to talk to us. Before we speak, we should think more about whether what we are going to say is what we should say. If what we are going to say is a disturbance to others, and does not relate to others, then we can choose not to speak and restrain ourselves in time.
We may sometimes want to share the joy with people close to us, which is even more important to choose the right time, not when others feel very annoyed, hard to talk to him about their happy things, which will make him feel more annoyed. We treat people and have a good relationship with them, we have to know the minimum etiquette. Only if we make others feel happy, others will be willing to get along with us and willing to be very good friends with us, so that our life will be happy.