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RE: Day 849: 5 Minute Freewrite: Sunday - Prompt: lame
@wakeupkitty thank you, I think the same thing, she is getting better with him. He is trying his best to be her friend. My Granddaughter hired a dog trainer today, maybe that will also help.
It just takes time. It will probably heal. I worked for many years with broken animals and in all cases it was due to human behavior. Good luck. 💕
@wakeupkitty We have decided she is scared of my husband, when I get home she is ok with him but with me gone she will not come near to him. Last year he watched her while we went on a cruise and she was fine with him, we can not figure out what changed.
That she is scared of him - I feel for him - is clear to me. The dog didn't stay with you after your cruise or? So this means after that period something happened. I doubt it has something to do with him but he reminds her of something.
Does he ignore the dog more if you are at home?
I think that is what he should do. Give the treat (on the floor) put the bowl with food down, call, leave and leave the door open and ignore. Not saying hi, talking to it, etc.
My wolves hated it as my friend kept looking at them and talked to them. They felt threatened by her... I told her not too, to ignore them and it was fine.
Happy day 💕
@wakeupkitty thank you, I value your opinion. I will tell him to try this. She has stayed with him several times and has always been fine with him, he is trying everything to win her over. My daughters grown Son stayed with her for several months I am wondering if he was mean to her and now she is afraid of men but feels safe if women are around. Or it could be because the son and his girlfriend had several fights while staying there and this scared her. We may never know what did it but I hope we can conquer it. She is getting a little better but only when I am present. I will not make her go anywhere else, my granddaughter loves her so much, it would break her heart if she had to give her up for good. Her moms dog is old and when she passes then my granddaughter can have her dog back.
He does not ignore her when I am home, that is when he can talk to her and pet her and she is good with him. Every evening before he goes to bed he sits down with her and talks to her like she is a person, saying what is wrong, and petting her.
Perhaps the sound of the voice reminds the dog of that period. It is hard to tell but it can heal if you have patience. Ignoring doesn't cost anything and the pet can be given if you are around. I wish you a great weekend. 💕
@wakeupkitty thank you, I know he will win her over, he has somewhat but not 100% yet. thank you for all your good advice. I hope your weekend is also good.
@myjob I am happy to hear that. A great day to you. 💕