RE: Contest | 25-Word-Comment - Monkey Business | Aid - 6 Steem
The topic of this week is: AID...
so far no one joined and I wonder why. Aid can be everything: a housekeeper, driver, gardener, some hero rescuing you from drowning, first aid (kit or kid), helping out if the account is hacked or the aid given to Steemians.
I like to talk about the last case: Aid asked by Steemiand for different reasons. I noticed that the same person can be helped by different "aid-funds" (communities) and I wonder who decides to help that only person or perhaps those two? And what about all the others but also... In how many cases does the one who received Steem give an update to all those who gave a hand? There's no need to give a weekly update but it feels as if some receivers suddenly disappear. Am I mistaken or?
I like to know how @ameh123 is doing.
He received aid for his brother but after he received it and told his brother was still sick he never mentioned his brother again (this was 3 months ago). After 2 weeks he disappeared again just like he was before he asked for help. Of course, it can be all a coincidence but wouldn't it be nice to hear if the brother is doing well? If the aid arrived at the destination?
@el-nailul @worldsmile @weisser-rabe @shield-it @mikitaly and also @sbamsoneu @grebmot @jiya99 what is your opinion about AID?
Being a good person is wonderful but you're also setting yourself up to be taken advantage of. On the other hand, cynicism doesn't seem like the solution either. I figure there needs to be some kind of balance. When you're being too nice the world is going to eat you up, when you're being a misanthrope you're throwing the baby out with the bathwater. That said, a bit of common courtesy goes a long way, but who knows. Maybe you should give people the benefit of the doubt, but you're not Jesus (I think) so you shouldn't be expected to sacrifice yourself. Even Jesus was aware that people are full of shit, but he did his thing anyway. He even forgave the people who nailed him to the cross, because they didn't know any better. Is just how it goes and why he was Jesus and not just... Bob or something.
lol didn't mean lapse into a christian sermon, but there you go. Sunday morning and all. I'm definitely full of it myself, but the above is just what I think anyway.
Sunday morning, it's Monday evening by now.. I did think about Sunday and the Sunday preach that was once hosted on this platform. I believe one of the freewrite prompts is preaching...
It is hard to find the balance between giving and denying but I think those who easily give also have a problem saying no which is a problem and with that, you do attract abusive people, parasites so to say which makes one believe all people are the same (and we love the dogs above all).
Jesus was like John and if you ask me John just like Bob sacrificed a lot. Many stand on the barricades to speak out and many do not even know they take the fall or have to take the fall (being backstabbed).
What if it's not about aid, being helpful, or humanity but about setting boundaries, being allowed to say NO, and "survival of the fittest"?
If you ask me human species isn't very strong and all skills to survive are beaten out of us, so if someone tries, scams we call it bad but is it?
We should prepare for the Sunday speech or the Friday
The benefit of the doubt.. makes a great theme... I hope I remember it.
I agree with you. It is hard to find a balance and I totally understand how one's inability to say no seems like an invitation to be abused, but saying no also comes with its own risks. Not necessarily because of some weird la la land notion of illusionary obligation, or because you're supposed to deny yourself, but because of a seemingly accumulative kind of psychological blowback. You know, like feeding that hateful little creature in the back in your head. The one that grows and grows until it eventually takes over. Then one day you catch yourself grinding over some long distant past bullshit and realize you're just some old fart doing the dishes. Life is too short for that, I'd say.
The challenge of saying no, or in terms of survival, is finding a way to fight back without losing yourself in the hate. Ironically enough I figure the same goes for the scammers, because they too think they're justified into doing whatever they're doing. Everbody does. We all think we're the good guys, more or less. So I guess maybe they are also just lashing out against an unfair world. And it is. Life is brutal and still, I'm living a pretty good life in comparison. So even if I end up saying no I'm not sure if I hold it up against them, because we're all just victims of our circumstances and I guess their despiration for quick buck is indicative of their situation being worse than mine (in one way or the other).
Either way, I reckon you already know when to give and when to take. It's just your head that's in the way, or your heart maybe. Like you feel like you should give a person something, then you make siginificant contribution and instead of feeling warm and fuzzy there's just... nothing. Seems a bit like that love-hate dichotomy where one might end up being the basis for the other. So maybe it's less about balance but temperance. I guess in my case it helps how I'm kind of a deadbeat myself, so even if you wanted to scam me I don't have much to begin with. Can't give what I don't have.
Sir, I really appreciate the support that you Steemians gave to my brother, and after the support, I made posts about him of how he was doing and how he was using the money, sir I have been active online all this while I didn't disappeared, but since I have made a lot of post about him and frequent report, I feel that my update about him was becoming too much that was why I stopped posting about him. My brother is still there continuing the dialysis because the conditions has not finished.
Am sorry for not giving update again all this while. Thanks so much for all your help towards my brother God bless you all.
@wakeupkitty.pal @el-nailul @worldsmile @weisser-rabe @shield-it @milkitaly.
It is good to hear you all are doimg well considering the circumstances.
I like to ask you this: Should we ask how you and your brother are doing after some time or do you say rather not?
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Myself and my brother are doing fine, but he is still continuing the dialysis since there is no money for the transplant yet, though the conditions is really stressing him the more presently is just that he is managing. I spoke with him today, because I am right now at work. Am going back home by Thursday to meet him during be my off day.
Thank you very much for your concern, care and contributions all this while, may God bless you.... The conditions has really made him to hate life but I always talk to him to Believe in God.
It is hard to accept you can no longer do what you like to do. I wonder if there's a hobby or something else that can distract him and bring some joy. I know for my friend it is to live on her own again instead of in a home for the elderly (nowhere else was room). She had one good day per week and needed help but we could arrange it in some way. She liked reading so I took piles of books for her from the library, things like that.
It must be possible for your brother to do something since many deal with the same he does.
I wish you all the best. I will ask in some time again if it's okay with you
Ok sir, thanks so much I really appreciate.