Steemit Engagement Challenge S9-W1 | Dream Couple

Salam to all friends

There are different dreams we have in our life and from all of them the most important dream is to dream or to think about your future soulmate. I want to explain about my dream couple that what are my criterias to choose an ideal life partner, the challenges that I have faced and many more things about dream couple.

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Is my current partner my choice and ideal partner?

Yes my current partner is my choice and he is my ideal partner because about him I think that he is not my choice is the choice of Allah for me.

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Ideality means to choose a standard for yourself so ideal partner means the standard ones have all qualities that you really want to have in him

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How did I struggle to get him?

There is a very interesting and heroic story behind the struggle to get him and I would like to tell the whole story and it will be very interesting for all of you guys.

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First time when I see him

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Basically it's a very interesting story to tell all of you because first time I see him as my lecturer when I was very little and young and I was in that age in which a person cannot make right decisions so I fell in love with him and his name is khursheed♥️✨

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Confused about him

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As he was my teacher at that time that's why it was a hurdle that I was very confused at that time about him because when you fell in true love then you don't know the feel that what is happening with you because the feeling of love for me was very real but I don't know at that time that is this a feeling of love or something else.

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I was also confused about him and also very worry about him that will he accept me or not? I love him a lot and he also cares me a lot at that time but we both don't tell each other but he is a psychiatrist also so he read my eyes and know about the real feelings that I have for him.

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A gap between our communication

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In my college life I didn't have a personal source of communication with him and at that time I was in second year and suddenly lockdown occurs due to Corona virus at that time and there was a gap between our communication so it was also very big hurdle for me.

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Hardest time for me

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When you know about the happening of something then you prepare your mind before and I was not ready at all at that time to have a gap between our communication so it was the hardest time for me to not see him for a long time and no one can know,just I know that how I spent those days.

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This was the most toughest and most hardest time of my life. A sincere and a loving person can be patience on everything but it is very difficult to bear the pain of love and the pain of staying away from the loved one.

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A final meet up with my love

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When I was in my University life then after 1 year I again contact with him and then I cried a lot at call with him and then I also shared my feelings that I have for him and he also shared about his feelings that he have already but he can't told me before.

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Now Alhamdulillah we are with each other and we are happy but there are some problems still in our life through which we are suffering but I love him a lot and I never want to leave him in the time of distress and I have no words to explain my feelings for him

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That was my struggle to get him and my heroic story behind getting my love

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I didn't get married yet and what are the obstacles?

I didn't get married with him still and there are a lot of obstacles from my side because I am doing DPT now and I am in 3rd year of my degree and 2 years are remaining and after 2 years we will marry.Inshallah ♥️✨

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He is a very mature sensible and independent personality and I know that no one can think much better about myself then him even I also don't know that what things should be done at which time but he always guided me with his a lot of love.

That's why he is waiting for the right time and he is thinking that it will be no more difficult to marry with him after I complete my degree.

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I can conclude that my education is a obstacle between our marriage and I am also waiting very anxiously for the right time which is after completing my degree and I need your all prayers because I want to have everything very smoothly

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What are the criteria for my ideal partner?

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There are different point of views I am expecting from different users about the criteria for selecting their ideal partners but I really want to say something about my partner in some beautiful words.

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My partner is ideal already and there is no need to change anything in him because he is my ideal and ideal personality and all the qualities that he have are my criterias for choosing an ideal partner

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Now I want to tell you first in tabular form first about some ideal qualities that are the criteria for choosing an ideal partner and that my life partner have.

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💫	Loving
💫	Respectable
💫	Understandable
💫	Friendly

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Loving

An ideal life partner should be very loving and he always should be very caring because to be a soulmate is a relationship which Allah also love and if I talk about my religion then to be in a halal relationship by nikkah is a very happy moment in Islam for both persons (Soulmate)

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My life partner and my soulmate is also very loving and I am proud of him and his love is my strength and this is the reason that I cannot live without him even I cannot imagine my life without him for a second.

Respectable

An ideal life partner should also respect the feelings of his partner and also respects the thing that he is partner expects from him because according to me respect is a more big thing than love.

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Any relationship in this world is incomplete if there is no respect element present so how we can imagine this big relationship without respect so an ideal partner is always that who respect his life partner.

Understandable

An ideal life partner should be understandable because understanding is a first thing and if you suppose a relationship without the understanding then there will be always disgusting arguments on each others point of view and the point of view will be different from both sides

Friendly

An ideal partner should be very friendly because in this relationship there should be a lot of sharing with each other and if there will be a lot of frankness then things will be easy and both partners can share each and everything with each other openly.

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Do I proritize Beauty and comfort in communication?

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Yes I will always proritize beauty and comfort in communication because communication between soulmate according to me should be in a very polite and in a very humble way and along with this should be the element of frankness also be present while communicating with each other.

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If anyone of them element will be absent then it will not be a good and strong communication.

What is the measure of happiness for me for getting married?

All the characteristics and qualities that I have mentioned in the criterias to be an ideal partners like love understanding care and frankness all are the measures of happiness for me to getting married.

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If we note then all measures of happiness are interrelated with each other because if anyone of them will be absent then we will feel that there is something incomplete in a relationship.

What I think about early marriage and older marriage?

Early marriage

If I talk about my point of view about early marriage then I will say that if we talk about the marriage below than 18 years then it will not be more good and more stable and successful marriage because below 18 years a person is not mature enough to handle all the situations.

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Marriage between 18 to 25 years old I also consider these marriages in early marriage and according to my point of you it's a best age to get marry and if I talk about gender then it's a best age for girls to be marry with someone whom they love.

Older marriage

Old marriages if between 30 to 35 years then they are good but if above 40 years then I will not prefer to marry with someone above this age because there are also complications in the body system after this age so the option of marriage between 18 to 25 years is best.

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It's a very special part because I want to dedicate song in my voice to my love and this part I have added in my post because it's my choice to sing a song for him in some beautiful words