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When a child rejects a parent without having some kind of justification, we are witnessing a feature of Parental Alignment Syndrome (SAP). However, what generates the most intrigue in this disorder is that the feeling of heartbreak of the children towards their parent does not develop naturally but because the other part of the parental side induces it.
Mainly we must bear in mind that, in this syndrome, the children are used without any consideration on the part of the parent. He ignores all the disturbance and psychological damage it causes his son. Now, according to what specialists in the area of mental health detail, when a father or mother uses their children falling into the syndrome of parental alignment, they do it in order to generate harm or avenge something that the other parent did and think that having their child against them, it's the best solution.
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Generally, SAP develops after the parents separate or divorce and when this happens, it initiates the legal process by which minors expect the law to ratify whether the father or mother is fit to have custody of them. Starting from this, one of the parents if he is upset with the other party, begins to incite in the children the feeling of rejection, hatred and denigration towards their parent thus generating a parental alignment.
It should be noted that, the aligner assumes the role of victim before his son and points out that his father is guilty for having damaged the family formation they had. Similarly, he uses manipulative words so that his children do not feel empathy for the other party because if they do, they are traitors and because of this, children develop the feeling of rejection and do their best to avoid communication.
In this disorder, the aligner executes the famous "brainwashing" and, he does not care if to achieve his goal, he has to lie because, his only purpose is to prevent the children from having a good relationship with their parent.
Consequences of this syndrome
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When a person suffers from Parental Alignment Syndrome, he is fully aware of all the actions he performs and at the same time, he knows that these attitudes will have a direct effect on both the ex-spouse and the children. However, what he does ignore is that when manipulating and using his little one, he will generate psychological damage because, the minor will have scars on his heart that will hinder the well-being of the aligned.
Due to the above, it is clear that the child with the passage of time ends up suffering alterations and at the same time, disturbances in their behavior since, they lose the will or sense of reasoning and in the criteria of these children, there are only the words that their aligner tells him.
Among the manifestations generated by the damage when we are facing the SAP stand out:
Emotional instability: Children feel anxiety and stress at all times when thinking about a possible encounter with the aligned parent.
Disorders in habits: The minor has difficulty falling asleep, constantly loses his appetite, confuses all situations and does not like to face what happens in his environment.
Disturbed behavior: They are aggressive children and like to attract people's attention through aggressiveness.
How can we treat SAP?
Specialists affirm that, the advisable and healthy thing for the children is that they continue to have contact with the aligned parent because, this would guarantee that the minor has emotional well-being and the relationship is never extinguished. In the same way, the ideal thing is that the children do not listen to reproaches, criticisms or arguments between the parents.
To overcome the SAP, the first thing is that the aligner parent changes his attitude and at the same time, his mentality. Now, to achieve this, you must attend with a specialist in the area of mental health because, through therapeutic sessions you will receive the indicated tools. As far as the child is concerned, he also has to receive specialized help so that he learns to have a stable relationship with both parents.
In short, it is not right for parents to resort to the manipulation of their children. The problems they have only belong to them and the duty they acquire as parents is to take care of the emotional and psychological well-being of minors. If the relationship as couples could not work, the children do not have to pay the consequences.