After 12 Years: Life Reflection

Time continues to turn around, all that remains are endless fragments of the story until the spirit is separated from the body. This is a phenomenon of human life, no one is able to stop it except God, the Almighty.

After 12 years, when the mother's spirit and body were separated from her body, the memory of her warmth continued to be embedded and deeply rooted, she was a perfect figure and gave everything to her children without exception, without any difference in the love we received, everything was the same. We are their children from the fruit of their married love.

2 years later, my father and mother left this world forever, the days I spent were like a luxury car that had lost the key, it could only be looked at, but unable to be a vehicle for mobilization.

That is a description of the feelings I experienced as a child, who was born with all financial limitations and rose to get out of the valley of bitterness towards a better life. For their struggle, no one can repay them even with piles of gold and jewels.

Wailing sadness and regret for them only becomes a judgmental whip, what has been done as a form of devotion to those who are gone!
Not a few are complacent, forgetting their role as children, caring for their parents when they get old. They seem to be meaningless, they just sit in silence and mourn over the behaviour of their children who have grown up, have brilliant careers and are wallowing in wealth.

This is a phenomenon that occurs and generally, every parent who enters a non-productive age feels it.

I am grateful that I belong to a minority group that is sensitive to the role of my parents in caring for me and raising me until I die. I put them on a priority scale compared to anything else in my life.

Are there any regrets? Even though they have done their best, regret and guilt continue to haunt them, as creatures with all limitations are unable to remain beside them for the rest of their lives. Regret only becomes a piercing shard, like glass shards that enter between the toes, causing pain and agony. depth.

How to be them, when you start to get older and need the love of adult children, is often overlooked so that children do not realize the existence of their parents as the foundation for their success.

The world is a stopping place, like a ship's port, only to anchor temporarily and go to its final destination. The chain of life will continue to spin endlessly, like the cycle of life that starts in the womb, is born, begins to crawl, walks, grows into a teenager, matures, ages and dies.

If every human being understood this cycle of life and was able to practice it in his life, there would never be elderly people who were abandoned, and thrown into exile (nursing homes). But the fact that has happened is the opposite, ego and ambition have destroyed instincts, building a fortress of indifference.

What have you done for your parents when they were still alive? This question is a reflection for everyone to make the best possible use of the time available as a moment to dedicate themselves, make them happy and continue to smile, be proud of the love they receive from their children.

The assumption that fulfilling financial needs can provide happiness is a wrong perspective, in principle, happiness is not obtained from wealth, if wealth is a measure of happiness, is happiness only theirs! In fact, no, because happiness belongs to people who are able to be grateful for the achievements they have obtained by continuing to become a better person than before.

This article is only a reflection on the role of children towards their parents at the end of their lives. I see the phenomenon of parental neglect as an attitude that must be stopped.

After 12 years, our family has understood from the start our respective roles as children and has become a reflection for the extended family, today, tomorrow and beyond.

Indonesian, May 28, 2024

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