Steemit Engagement Challenge S9-W1 | Dream Couple

@steembetterlife, Your contest made me nostalgic. The pages of the diary of the mind suddenly appeared in front of my eyes. Thanks for giving this contest.

Me @hasina78
From @bangladesh

Marriage is a blessing for us from Allah. And an ideal partner can turn life into heaven. Now come to my own words.
We have been together for almost 18 years. Alhamdulillah I am fine. I am always thankful to Allah for giving me such a nice person as my life partner.

My father did not agree to my marriage. He wanted to marry me to his friend's son. But I liked who my partner was. My mother and my relatives supported me. Since my father did not agree, my husband arranged everything very quickly so that the marriage could be completed as soon as possible. What tension, and anxiety we faced at that time. The opposition party called for a strike also that time. All in all, an extremely uncertain situation. But in the end, everything was done well.

1. The first obstacle came from my father. He wanted to marry me to his friend's son. And my husband is in the army. My father did not like Army at all.

2. We were in Khulna (a district of Bangladesh) during my marriage. Where the people of my father-in-law's house did not want to come to that place. And my relatives did not want to go to my in-laws' house in the Comilla district. So later it was decided that the wedding ceremony will be held in the capital Dhaka.

3. On the day of the wedding, my sister-in-law was angry and did not want to come to the function, so my husband had to go to Savar on the morning of the wedding to fetch her. That was time-consuming.

4. Organizing the wedding, and entertaining the guests was very difficult for our family as we did not have a home in Dhaka.

5. The worst part was that my father was upset and did not talk to my husband.

But problems will come in life, so if you deal with them with patience, the solution becomes easier.

According to me, one should look for these qualities in an ideal partner:

Trust is very important in a husband-wife relationship. Without trust, the relationship cannot go far. If one does not trust the other, a third party can easily sow seeds of suspicion between them which can lead to divorce.

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Caring for one another is very important. Caring makes marriage beautiful. Strengthens love between husband-wife.

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Without moral values, no person can maintain any relationship. So its importance is immense in married life.

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If the husband-wife does not respect each other, the relationship will bring nothing but bitterness. I will expect respect from someone only when I respect him.

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I definitely want to be able to rely on my partner. I can share my happiness and sadness with him. It is very important to have this quality in the partner.

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Do you prioritize beauty or comfort in communication? Why?

I give more importance to comfort. Because beauty is very temporary in this mortal world. If I give more importance to beauty then when beauty ends I will lose interest in it. As a result, the whole thing will turn into a failed project. My relationship with my partner will be better when I am in a comfort zone with him about everything. And this makes conjugal life beautiful.

My happiness was beyond measure when I got married. In fact, there is no measure of this happiness. An ideal partner is the greatest gift from Allah. Alhamdulillah, it is almost 18 years since the beginning of marriage with the same happiness. Everyone will pray that I can stay like this as long as I live.

I am not in favor of early marriage. The maturity needed to make a relationship successful is not present in young boys and girls. So there is chaos in family life. Also, age is a big factor in the risk of having a child. Late marriage is also not good. According to me the ideal age for marriage is between 25 and 30. If you get married at this age, both life and family can be maintained beautifully. This is of course my personal opinion.