"Steemit Engagement Challenge S9-W1: Dream Couple”
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Is your current partner your choice and ideal partner? How did you struggle to get it? Tell us about your heroic struggle.
I want to thank God for giving me such a good life partner. My life was chaotic. The Creator was great, so He gave me my life partner.
We met through social media, although one of my partner's relatives was an acquaintance of mine. My partner used to read my writings through my social media first. I write poorly, but she likes me.
After following my writings for a long time, she contacted me one day on her own, and from there, the two started talking, and the episode of exchanging hearts ended. We were living in two different cities of the country. It was challenging to meet her. There are almost no holidays in the private sector.
However, I would often visit her after traveling 400 kilometers. We met briefly, but the two had a great time. The journey was an adventure. It was a long journey of about eight hundred kilometers in secret.
It is an unknown city to me. However, I could not stop myself from the pull of love. We met once or twice a month. And there are love stories of us on social media at night. After traveling too much, it would have been difficult to come to work.
What are the obstacles you faced when you wanted to get married, or why haven't you gotten married yet?
After having a fantastic time, I and my lover decided to get married, but there was an obstacle due to the families of both of us. My family disapproved of my marriage then. My new job needed to be in a more stable financial position. And my wife was a student then. She is pursuing her studies.
Her family also did not agree to this marriage at first. My wife and I decided that we would talk to our family and understand them. After explaining to them for three long months, they did not agree to anything. Then we threatened them both that we would marry secretly and we would not think about their social status.
Then both of our families agreed to sit together and turn our love story into marriage. My wife's family, along with my family, met me, and her father agreed to the marriage, and the date was fixed. At that time, her exams were going on, and her sisters were against this marriage. So we got married in a hurry, and the day after the wedding, she left for her exams and studies. Finally, he comes as a bright blessing in my world.
What are the criteria for your ideal partner?
In my view, the qualities I need in my ideal life partner and I have found are-
Compatibility: My ideal life partner may share similar interests, thoughts, and goals. We both have similar likes and views on many things and are thrilled to find this familiar. It is very much important I have a strong foundation for a healthy and fulfilling relationship with him.
Communication between us: Any effective partnership needs to have open lines of communication. My ideal partner is open and honest in their communication with me and is as eager in learning about my feelings as I am.
Trust: A crucial component of any relationship is trust.My ideal life partner I can depend on and trust in anything.
Respect: My ideal partner and I respect each other as individuals and each other's thoughts, feelings, and boundaries. We also respect each other's family and friends and do not hesitate to entertain them.
Emotional Intelligence: Ideally, I wanted to have a wife with a high level of emotional intelligence, which means she would understand her own emotions and mine and can manage the world's affairs intelligently. I also wanted my wife to have empathy, which would enable her to understand me better. I am lucky to have found such a wife who has both emotional intelligence and empathy. I love her for that.
Ability to laugh: Life is full of different situations which are not favorable. The unfavorable situations can be better handled if there is enough laughter. I have a partner who can lift up my mood with her hearty laughter at any moment.
Physical attraction: Physical attraction is not a significant part of a relationship, but plays an essential role in romantic relationships. My partner is attractive enough, and that finds me attractive too.
Religious Beliefs: Belief is a very personal aspect of one's life but if partners share the same belief it becomes more harmonious. I am a practicing Muslim and so is my wife. She is a very spiritual person and follows the rules of Islam. We always support each other in our beliefs.
Do you prioritize beauty or comfort in communication? Why?
Two people first come close to each other by looking at each other's external beauty, but to me, peace is found with whomever talks.
To whom two minds can be told. That's your woman. She is a woman of heart who can speak her mind comfortably. It is more critical for me to be able to talk comfortably.
What is your measure of happiness when you get married? Why?
Many men in our society think that life is ruined by marriage. It's my real-life experience that if you quiz ten men honestly, most of them will answer this. Actually, that's not the point.
Suppose you have the best communication with your life partner. Be respectful and compassionate towards each other then, mutual intolerance will never arise. I am very happy in my personal life because I got all the needs of my heart from my wife.
I think I have also been able to give her the same feeling. I am very happy because of the way family life pulls me. The way I can say everything on my mind is to lighten and calm my mind. I don't get this happiness anywhere else.
What do you think about early marriage or older marriage? Why?
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I am in favor of marrying after some time or after age. Because two mature people can be happy by understanding each other experiences. I have seen very few young marriages that are happy. It is not possible to pretend to be satisfied with the marriage. But people live in hope and love, so you can wait a while to find the right love. Isn't it?
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Thanks for reading.
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Dear friend
You are right if we choose right life partner life all happiness totally based on it. But it depends on the matter of luck what have decided by Allah. But still we can changed our life to happier by little adjustment and conpromises.
Thank God you ultimately got your love its greatest blessing of life.
I wish you success
Thank you. And best of luck to you!
Thank you
Hola, el amor supera todo obstáculo, todo lo puede y ustedes son una muestra de ello, las familias tienden a ser obstáculos muchas veces en ese afán de protección, pero el tiempo a veces es la mejor confirmación de las situaciones.
Cad quien decide cuando casarse o unirse a alguien pero lo importante es tomar sabias decisiones que no signifique arrepentirse o dañar a otros en el proceso.
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