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Introduction

Lovely greetings to the great minds in @steemfamily. I am super elated to be fully back in this Community after a little while of non-participation in contests and to also key in to participate in this superb contest topic carefully chosen and Organized by @uzma4882.

The vital role that children play in terms of strong family bonding and unity are indisputable and irrefutable and hence indispensable.
As a matter of fact, a family is is considered incomplete without the presence of children in it. After all you cannot have a correct, complete and concise definition of a family without the mention and inclusion of children. Hence a family is defined as an an umbrella under which you have the father, the mother and the children. I hope you can fathom the point I am making from this definition?
I am going to write on this topic in two phases;
1• instances from my extended family which incorporates my father, mother and siblings.
2• instances from my immediate family which are my wife and two kids.

Hailing from a monogamous family of 8 siblings and Two parents has been a wonderful experience to me. It has indeed provided me with the opportunity to learn, unclear and relearn. In the sense that The way our parents brought the 8 of us (six makes, two females of which I am the third child) had left a lot of indelible lessons in our memories.
Nothing gives me joy like watching my two kids play together and embrace each other in love. My parents taught us how to love and tolerate one another as children from one blood
and we are now replicating in our respective families. We were also taught how to manage and share what we have with each other there surpressing the spirit of selfishness, self-seeking and self-centeredness as we always eat from one pot and plate and at the same time. When one of us is hungry, he must exercise a great deal of patience and self-control to wait for the rest of us to be home to have our meal at the same time. This really helped to cement our sibling love and solidify the family bonding.

Children Are source Happiness and Joy

The presence of children in the family is Source of happiness and joy. And it helps the parents to come together to rub minds together on how to raise, trains, carter and provide for the needs of the children and also plan for their future.
Let me sound a little bit Biblical here by quoting the Holy Scripture.

Lo, children are a heritage of the Lord, and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.
Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate (Psalms 127:3-5)"
Let me be very emphatic here, only a properly guided and well trained children can be helpful in building a strong family bonding. And the train starts while the are still in the womb. Children as arrows can either Pierce the heart of their own parents by their unruly, ungodly, immortal and uncivil behaviors or defend and save their parents from their enemies by their decent, godly, immoral lifestyles. In the Bible. Cain became a fugitive and a vagabond by slaying his brother thereby piercing the hearts of his parents- Adam and Even by the Death of his brother and his ever wandering life.
The children of Jacob also became a thorn in his
flesh and pierced his heart through the Never-ending sibling rivalry, conflict, jealousy,and internal strife. Joseph suffered betrayal in the hand of his brother and that pierced and broke the heart of Jacob their father. And this singular act left them in perpetual guilty for many years after their father was gone
What do I say about David whose Children,(Absalom) allowed no rest.
Suffice it to say here that whenever there is no peaceful coexistence among the children in the family it pricks the heart of the parents and makes the sorrowful

Enhances Peaceful coexistence between the parents

When we were kids whenever there is a strife or misunderstanding between out parents it doesn't linger long because with the presence of their children there they wouldn't hold into the offense for long lest it should have a devastating effect on their children. Also as reasonable and sensible parents they are they wouldn't like to quarrel while their children are watching so children helps either of the parents both the offending and the offended to shield their sword for peace to reign. Now you can see that the presence of children in the family enhances peaceful coexistence between the parents
Whenever there is a loggerheads between my father and mother, it is we the children .
At times, when there is an issue between the father and the mother up to the extent that the father don't want to give money for food in the house, if he remembers that the children are there, he would change his mind and do the needful for the sake of the children.

Children serve as Antidote To Divorce Cases

It is difficult for divorce to show up in a family where there are children because no parent with a living conscience would like to abandon his or her children in the hands of an unknown person as a result of Divorce. Both mothers and father endure a lot of things because of their children in the family. Recently I have a neighbor who just served his wife a divorce papers over a very minute loggerheads and sent her packing. When I tried to mediate in the case by preaching to him. He said:

I have no regret whatsoever and have nothing to lose for the action I have taken. After all, she has given me no child/children for me to have a rethink and soft pedal over my action. Let her go to hell I don't care.

Children Helps To Foster A Better art of communication

The art of communication is one of the challenges that so many families are faced with and it is the pivot on which the wheel of strong family bonding rotates because if there is no good communication system and patter between the members of the family especially the father and the mother the peace and unity and progress of the family is in great jeopardy and may suffer shipwreck at long run. As a matter of fact, I will like to say this here that the happiness of a couple can be measured to a larger degree by the effectiveness of their communication. How a couple communicates is one of the most powerful factors affecting the success or failure of their relationship and a determinant factor to family bonding .Some parents commnicate to each as roommates and not as soulmates.

But when the children are in the family the art of communication improves

Children Helps To Tame the Temperaments of The Parents And put them under control

Each individual is perculiar with a particular temperament different from that of the other including couple. All humans beings are a combination of two or more of these four temperaments namely; Sanguine, Choleric, Phlegmatic and Melancholy
A temperament is not better than the other. Differences, when not extreme but adequately channeled, can be positive, specially for couple relationship. The presence of children helps every parent to put his/her temperament under check.

Children Helps to Relief Parents of Work Stress and Enhance a Better Sex Life Of the parents

To buttress this point may I crave for you indulgences to be a bit raw and vulgar by mentioning one Aspect of family bonding that no one wants or likes to mention. That is couple's Sexuality
The sexual life of the couple play a pivotal role in enhancing stronger family bonding. Even if there is no money or food in the house, if a woman is satisfied on bed sexually by her husband she will always be happy and in good mood. The most frustrated and gloomy woman is the one who is incessantly left unsatisfied (halfway) on bed.
Now, one may wonder and even ask, how then do children play a part is this Special aspect of the Family Life.
Yes, (work) stress dissipates and drains the energy both from the mother and the father thereby making them inactive or less active on bed. But when the children come together and every hand on deck to do the domestic chores and it relieved the parents of work stress. The energy they would have dissipated in working to win bread, tidy up the house or cook for the betterment of the family, would be reserved for and channeled to the sexual satisfaction of each other. So you can see that children can be of immense help to enhancing a better and quality sexual life if their parent thereby fostering a formidable family bonding.

Children can help to Delay the Ageing Process of their parents and also take care of them in their old Age

Troublesome children are like a wound in the heart and a disease in the bone of parents. It dries their bone and sends/nails them to their untimely grave. When the children are wayward and ill-behaved the next thing that would set in the family is BLAME GAME between the parents. It is either the father blaming the mother or the mother pointing accusing finger on the father for the bad behaviour of their children and this affects strong family bonding. But in the other hand when the children are disciplined., well-behaved and successful in life, the parents are happy and proud with their shoulders lifted high when walking on the street because they know they have a place to go for holiday and also spend their old age.

Good, wise, well-informed and godly choice of a life partner

This is another aspect that greatly affects strong family bonding either negatively or positively. It is the desire of every parent to have a good daughter in-law or son-in-law. But when the otherwise becomes the case, there is bound to be tug of War in the family instead of good and stronger family bonding.

I humbly invite you to visit my Family bonding gallery

Conclusion.
Time and space would fail me to go on and on to mention the important roles children play to enhance a strong family bonding but I believe the few I have listed would be useful to the reader of my blog. Conclusively I will advise that parent should avoid partiality and preferential treatment when raising their children because that might go along way in affecting family bonding and thereby jeopardizing the life of the recipient of such treatment. Instead show equal love to all the children and when they grow the would learn to replicate same on their siblings.
I hereby invite @debaron, @de-king, @peachyladiva, @starxious and @blessaku96 to join me in sharing their experience in this Contest.
Once more I register my appreciation to @uzma4882 for this Contest and @steemfamiky for availing him the platform for this Contest.
Thank you for you time here

Revered Regards to:
@uzma4882
@greatketty
@peachyladiva
@makcl
@strawberrry
@humaidi
@rabibulhasan71

I remain yours humbly

@pato84