I think the debate over should one pick a lover or be in love has existed almost since love began. That question has stirred up many arguments, songs were written on it while lots of films have been based on that subject. This is a matter of choice depending on our own history, perspective, faith and principles in life.

"My bounty is as boundless as the sea, my love as deep; the more I give to you, the more I have, for both are infinite." William Shakespeare (Romeo and Juliet)

On the other hand, others may claim that love offers safety and reassurance. The fact that her love for you is absolute makes it possible for him to feel calm and stable. Yet others may argue that love is what makes life interesting and tasty. They tend to light a fire, burning passion and desire in you, making your life shine bright.

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"Don't waste your love on somebody who doesn't value it". William Shakespeare (Romeo and Juliet)

This quote is one true thing: at the end of it all, the fact is that you may pick a lover or your beloved, but ultimately the significance of comprehension and love. However, I believe that understanding is the key to a successful marriage. In either case, our partners must understand us—our character, behavior, and attitudes. We should build a space of understanding between us before wedding.” This understanding forms the foundation of a strong, lasting relationship.

In my opinion, Trust is the main essence of all kinds of relationships; once we lose that trust, we can't take it back. Understanding, it allows us to appreciate, act and react—our partner for who they truly are, who want them to be. It strengthen empathy, patience, and compassion, these qualities that are essential in a marriage. Besides it assists in effective communication, conflict resolution, and giving support during good times and bad times of our lives. Please share whatever has happened or will happen or any other thing with them. Not a thing should you be hiding. It will eliminate the misunderstanding and loss of trust. We should always tell them the truth.

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So, if it was myself, I would choose understanding. I would prefer somebody with whom I can communicate, someone who understands me. This is because love, either one’s love or loving somebody, is much more significant and satisfying when it’s based on comprehension. Even so, love and marriage cannot be stereotyped because they have varied as much as we do, and every single experience of mine has contributed more lessons to me.