How to start again with life?

Today the entire world is facing harsh realities of life, no one ever imagined. The lock down due to the pandemic has forced every one to dig deeper in their past and what possibly the future could be.

Many times we have to start all over again on the ruins of our own happiness, when everything around us shatters and we lose what we have built our whole life on. We all loved them strongly, truly and, it seemed, forever. But what seemed solid and long-lasting suddenly collapses, destinies and relationships are shattered, love and feelings disappear, and instead disappointments remain, sometimes hatred, malice, and an inability to forgive. We need to learn to start once again in such situations.

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Even we still do not know for sure what the "new normality" will look like, It is only certain that it could be more hard. People may not be really interested in the future life because they are too attached to what has passed and what will never come back.

People often try to artificially prolong what was, they try to blind the fragments of broken happiness again and on such bases to revive what has irretrievably disappeared. They drown in the past, live in memories, and the present loses all meaning for them. Some might find it more worthwhile to go to his past, because it is easier to do. But there is hardly anything we can bring back. In short, in all similar situations, there is nothing in the past that we could cling to.

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We got to make ourselves strong, we need to find the strength and ask ourselves a single question, what, in fact, died? Did the death of man, the failure of work, or the severance of a relationship die the true essence that inspired us? Did our love, friendship, lofty dreams die, or did fate take from us only the form through which we lived it, to which we became attached, and which made us happy? We need to fill the mind with only positive content, and ignore everything negative so everything will be fine.

Negative emotions temporarily driven out of consciousness only to return in an even worse form, instead, we need to accept them, understand what they are telling us. If we truly understand that with the death of a man or his departure, the love for him has not disappeared, that his job has failed, but the dream is still alive.

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This does not mean that we should give up hope, and surrender to despair, but one should think realistically in relation to what future expect from us.Then to start again means to gather strength and find other forms through which the essential, which is truly the foundation of happiness , could give new birth and manifest again.

We are much less likely to do something in reality if we often imagine that we did it, or we did it in the virtual. In this case, starting anew means being able to look the truth in the eye and admit to ourselves that we have lived in illusions for a long time, considering desires to be reality.

To turn a new page and start all over again requires another long-forgotten skill: knowing how to lose. Only thanks to what we lose do we learn to appreciate all that is new and true that comes after it. That is why it is not true that it is so very bad to sit on the ruins of one's own illusions. We experience failures and frustrations so it is only natural and logical to be negative and feel negative emotions. And we cannot get rid of them by some magical positive thinking, but by acceptance and conscious change. Therefore, no universe will help, but we will primarily help ourselves.

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Every moment of our life is unique and unrepeatable and that is why we need to live it fulfilled to the end. Later it can be repeated in form, but never in its essence, because the opportunities, times and demands will be different, and we will be different. In nature and life, nothing is ever completely repeated. When a great musician performs the same program at different concerts, he cannot repeat it even when he would very much like to, because the essence of his performance does not come down to the technique of performance brought to perfection. Famous Coelho quote that is often turn out to be beneficial in such situations,

"If you want something strongly enough, the whole Universe is born to help you."

Starting over is not that easy. In this interesting process, there are moments that would be good to pay attention to so that we do not repeat the same mistakes and bang our heads against the wall every time.

Don't look back. Excessive attachment to everything that has disappeared in the past is holding back all new beginnings. The past is useful for extracting experience, but it is dangerous to dwell on it. Positive self-affirmation is enough to tell ourselves that we are the most beautiful, the smartest, the most successful, the safest and then we will really become like that.

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