Steem4Nigeria Accelerator Contest Week4- Transparency in Marriage.
INTRODUCTION |
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Any marriage or relationship that was built on lies can never stand the test of time. It is good to note that once your partner feel that you are hiding something from them gives them the impression to never trust you again no matter how you try to paint things white. There's a saying I always tell people that characters are like clothes we wear no matter how long you wear your new clothes always have it in mind that you'll repeat those old ones one-day. Be truth to yourself so you can be truth to others.
Briefly explain Transparency in a laymans understanding . |
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Transparency: Is simply referred to as what is open for everyone to see through. someone who's honest in all he/she does is seen as transparent. In a situation where people who are business partners do things in sincerity without cheating and no one feel cheated and they tell the truth in all that happened between them can also believe to be transparency.
People who don't keep secrets from each other no matter how personal the secret seem to be. Let's take for instance, people who newly found Love with one and other, one of them may have something personal that maybe a family sickness (hereditary) that everyone must contact as far as the family blood runs through your vein. but rather take a bold step to inform his/her opponent about it without allowing the person to discover it, so he/she will have it upon himself that what soever comes after it is his/her decision that still keep him/her in a relationship that may turn out to be dangerous to his/her health tomorrow.
What is your opinion on been transparent in marriage or relationship. |
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What build marriage or relationship is nothing but understanding then transparency comes in after. I always tell people that the only thing that keeps relationship or marriage going is UNDERSTANDING . So if you understand your partner very well transparency will only be second thing to considered. Understanding give you the boldness to be transparent to who ever you are doing things with. So my opinion or suggestions on transparency in relationship or marriage is.... First try to understand your partner as it will help you to know if been transparent with the person worth it? if it does, then go ahead and be transparent to him/her because it worth to be straight forward in all you do. sincerity, honesty and truthfulness are good attributes to transparency. So i urge each and everyone going into relationship or marriage to be trustworthy and transparent so there could be peace and harmony in the family.
In the case whereby one party finds out the other persons hidden secret what do you think should be done? |
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Every human being both adults and children have one particular thing that must always remain as secret or private. And is not easy to reveal them out to people. And this privacies and kept from spouses and children as well because some feel it protects their sanity.
Such situations required high level of wisdom to handle them well, so if you find out secrets are kept away from you rather than being honest then the best to do is to call to the person's attention to deliberate on what could be done and why is necessary to live in truth and be transparent in relationship or marriage and if the person show concerned about it he/she should be forgiven but if he doesn't show concern then separation will remain the only option. Although there are people who are not ready to take corrections and this set of people always claim to be right even if they are wrong and they don't feel sorry for their wrong doing. So you are in a relationship with such people the only thing to do at the moment is to quit that relationship to avoid regrets when you are finally in marriage.
Have you ever been in a relationship that lacked transparancy?If yes, What did you do? But If no, what would you do? |
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If you've ever been in more than one relationship then i think you should experience what intransparency is. Although i have been in a relationship that lack transparency where by i can't access my partner's phone, because she feels that i want know about her hidden secret so she take her phone to be more private than her private part because there are things she's hidden from me. So what i did then was to Walk out of that unhealthy relationship to save myself from heart attack. Because i believe that anywhere you are not welcome and valued don't over stay your welcome because you'll never be valuable to the person even in marriage so walk away as early as possible so you could find your worth.
Can truth be hidden forever ? |
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Human character is just like clothes we wear on daily basis. For instance you are traveling to a new environment now you'll love to wear one of your best clothes to show you are new to the environment but on staying for some time you'll start to wear your old clothes again because you are now familiar with the environment. So no matter how you pretend to be good while you're not one day your old character will reveal the true you. Truth must always find ways to reveal itself if you are under pretense. therefore truth is very important to practice it most especially in marriage.
Conclusion. |
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In all your doings be straight forward to people,be truthful,be honest because honesty pays. If people first know you to be an honest person they trust you even when you do something wrong because you are not known with dishonesty. It will interest people to find you Worth of trust.
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I appreciated your very targeted point in your article and last but not least you said if you have more than one relationship at same time so transparency is lacking and this is absolutely true , this is cause of divorce, ditch and lacking of loyalty to each other. I wish you all the best for your contest. Any way I have shared my entry too if you have time so please share your feedback on my post so it will be honour for me
https://steemit.com/hive-147599/@yourloveguru/steem4nigeria-accelerator-contest-week4-transparency-in-marriage
Thank you, @ynglu22 for participating in this contest organized in the Steem4Nigeria community.
Looking at the subject of transparency from your perspective was interesting. I will love to ask, what if a person is generally honest but decided to withhold the fact that they were adopted and that they don't know their real parents which makes them feel ashamed. . . How bad is that?
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Thanks buddy for the review. In regards to your question; let's assume t at your present age now you wake up this morning with the news that you are an adopted child. Do you think you can continue being the same you again? How do you look at your wasted years with an adopted father?
But as of me if there's a trace to my root i think to trace my root because in my own custom and tradition it's an abomination to be an adopted child in the community. An adopted child don't have a single say in the community, you are not entitled to any position or tittle.
thanks, let me stop here the rest will be story for another day.
Transparency in a relationship or marriage only means one thing to me, open communication!
If you don't have this making the marriage work is going to be so much harder. In fact, if it is not there before a marriage my advice would be, think twice before you take those vows.
Good luck with the contest and thanks for the invitation!
Exactly, no matter how one pretends, some day the truth will be revealed.
But in my opinion, I think if you love someone enough, there is no need to hide anything.
Meanwhile I wish you well in your contest participation.
Thanks dear, yeah you are right by saying if you love someone there's no need of hidden anything from the person but there are people who are wolf in sheep's clothing claiming to love you but deep down they're there for a purpose. So shine your eyes.