Money and Marriage|| by v-brainer
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Hello everyone, greetings from this end to you all on this platform and in this community "Steem4Nigeria" in particular. I want to hope and trust that you all are doing great, if so then thanks be the almighty.
I am v-brainer and today, i want to engage in the contest with the title "Money and Marriage" that is been organized by @manuelhooks in this community. Money they said "answereth all things", please ride with me as i share my own view of how money has been a major factor affecting marriages today.
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"Money is the root of all evil", "Money is not everything, "Money does not bring happiness", all these are common sayings you may have come across. Even though they are genuine reasons for bringing up such sayings, in my own opinion, i believe money is a very important factor in marriage. In as much as money is the root of all evil, lack of money i will say "is the whole tree of evil. Though i am not from a rich home, but so far, i have vividly examine various class of rich family and poor family and trust me the rich family and marriages seem happier than the poor marriages and households. When you have money, you can virtually do everything, you can please your spouse and his or her family, you can save a sick family members and inlaw from dying, but there could be problem archiving these things listed above and many more without money. So in my opinion i think money is central to family happiness.
The fact that the society has made it obvious that the man should be the one taking all the financial responsibilities is giving me a course for concern and this has been the major issue with finances in many homes today. Gone are those days where women just sit at home and depends solely on the so called breadwinner (her husband) for everything. Women who are not understanding with always spark up quarrel and fight if they do not get sufficient funds from their husbands to meet up to daily family need.
The truth is, some men are actually lazy too and feel less concerned about the upkeep and well-being of their family, others marry multiple wifes without good financial capacity to fend for them and their children, some are alcohol and drug addict which makes them spend lavishly on unnecessary things rather than their family, and so all these listed above usually cause serious problems in households especially in my area.
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Like i mentioned earlier, the society has configured our mindset that, the man is to provide everything thing. It is no new thing to know that most spouse especially women thinks 'their money is their money and their husbands money is our money'. Well for me, i just pray we earn as much as to the extent where we won't bother or even think about such. But if situations like that arises, i would want to cause any trouble or quarrel, i will try my best to meet up with responsibilities.
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To me i think this should be based on mutual understanding. For me, i wouldn't feel entitled to my wife's salary, it doesn't really sound nice at all. A woman is suppose to support the man while the man works hard to make sure financial issues are met. I have seen cases where by women hand over their monthly salaries to their husbands but like i said earlier, it should be base on mutual understanding.
I have never seen or heard where a man hands over his monthly salaries to his wife before, I wonder what it will be like, but it is still possible based on the capacity and kind of people in question.
Most times, money is such a big issue in marriage lately because people go into marriage unprepared. Some people marry as a result of peer pressure, others marry because they had premarital sex (pregnancy) and out of shame rush into marriage, some marry multiple wifes for reason best known to them.
I think the best solution to mitigate money issues in marriage is to, first; get prepared especially financially before getting married, secondly; have a good plan on how to tackle and manage finances, thirdly; expand income growth and lastly; know your strength and capacity because you can't give birth to 20 children knowing fully well that you finances can not fend for all of them.
Money can't do everything but trust me, it is very important in building a happy home. It has never been easy but we will keep on striving towards perfection.
I want to really appreciate the organizer of this contest @manuelhooks again for bringing up such a wonderful topic. I will like to invite everyone especially my friends @solexybaba @samuelebuka and @joymm to participate in this contest too.
Thank you all for reading through, you can share your thoughts on the comment section.
Well spoken, I agree that it isn't an obligation for women to summit their monthly salary to their husbands, rather it should be a mutual understanding between the two as to how much each can remit monthly towards a collective goal . Good luck
Thank you so much @stanley52 for sharing your thoughts too. I appreciate
Thank you so much dear friend for inviting me to this contest. I wish you the very best of luck
You are most welcome
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Ok ma. Thanks alot for the review