ENGAGEMENT, HOW SHOULD IT BE.
Engagement is a very relevant and important topic which brings to mind different ideas and scenarios which could be personal or not.
Engagement in a relationship |
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In a relationship, engagement could be seen as an agreement or decision made by both parties concerned to get married or stay committed and loyal to each other. This decision is, in most cases made official with a ring and a little celebration as it signifies a happy moment.
Engagement is an important aspect of a relationship as it shows progress and seriousness though it's still not a sure or 100% guarantee for marriage as change they say, is constant.
Age to be engaged |
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The age to get married differs greatly from one person to another and even place to place. I believe it's right to get engaged at any age above 20 where you are finally matured both physically and mentally and you know exactly what you want and what you don't. It could be 25, 26, 28 and counting.
The things you consider in a person before engaging or accepting engagement |
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There are some things we should put into consideration before accepting an engagement or engaging anyone. Most of things include;
- Level of commitment.
- Their idea of love.
- Their occupation.
- Their opinion on having a family.
- How they treat others around.
- How they handle disagreement or stress.
How long is right for engagement before marriage? |
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Since engagement is a step towards marriage meaning before getting engaged you have marriage in mind, it should last a year or a little over a year at most. This is basically my thoughts and can vary from person to person.
Things that can change someone's mind after engagement |
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There are various things that can change a person's mind just after engagement as love isn't enough reason to stay engaged.
Genotype incompatibility: this is for those who get to check their genotype only after engagement. When they find out they're not compatible by genotype, this could lead to a change of mind.
Related partners: after engagement, the thought of marriage is most times in the mind of both partners and this lead to one trying to find out about the family background of their potential spouse. In doing this, there's no limit to what they might find out and the possibility of being related is realistic.
Reg flags: after engagement, you might get to notice other things about your partner which you consider reg flags like anger management issues, overly controlling behavior, cheating, frequent lying and many others. At this point you try communicating to them about it but when it seems persistent, it's okay to have a second thought.
Is engagement a guarantee for marriage? |
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As I earlier mentioned, engagement is never a guarantee for marriage. Until you're married, you're not married. I've seen and heard of many situations where people get engaged and still not end up as married couples. Engagements that don't end in marriage isn't always a bad idea, you could be saving yourself a lot of stress and headache by not pushing through with it as some red flags only get known after engagement.
Inasmuch as engagement isn't a guarantee for marriage, it is a solid step forward in a relationship and could end in marriage as well.
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Sometimes, being engage doesn't mean a qualification for marriage, we have situations of 2years engagement but still ends up shattered ,to avoid such we need to keep eyes on spec, partners shape and other essential things.
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Engagement is truly no qualification or guarantee for marriage.
I agree with you that engagement is never a guarantee for marriage. Good job
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