Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 41: Navigating Through Conflicts

Hello everyone,
It's your favorite Steemian @rakiya from Nigeria and I'm delighted to join in this contest organized by @steem4nigeria in this noble community today. It's a wonderful contest and I love to share my participation in it.

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How do you manage to stay calm during an argument?

Argument means exchanging words with someone over a disagreement. This means that if you don't come to terms with someone, you guys will end up arguing. So when this happens how do you manage the situation is the big question of the day.

In my case, I'm someone who doesn't talk much hence staying calm during an argument is always very easy for me. Whenever I go into an argument with someone and I notice that the argument is not yielding any good fruits, I will just keep quiet and ignore the person we are arguing together.

Over time, this has made people also stay calm because when you begin to speak alone without me answering you it is as good as you just talking to yourself. People feel bad when I ignore them and don't respond to what they are saying.

So for me, the best way to remain calm is to avoid the talk completely and then keep quiet no matter what the person is saying. When you do this, you have also taught the person a lesson to stay calm.

Why is it important to listen carefully during a disagreement?

When you disagree with someone, you must listen to the person carefully because there may be something that you don't know that the person is trying to point out. So you need to carefully listen to what the person is saying before concluding.

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If you continue talking or arguing with the person you may miss out on some vital information that you may have needed to be ahead of him in the argument or whatever caused the argument so it is always good you pay close attention and get all the details you need from the person.

Sometimes when you are arguing your partner may likely say a secret that you may need but if you are making noise with him as well, then it will be difficult to learn anything from him or her.

How does understanding someone else's feelings help in resolving conflicts?

Being able to understand someone else feelings will go a long way in resolving conflict because once you know how someone will feel, you will know how to act to either hurt the person or not to hurt the person.

Once I know what I will do to ensure we don't fight because I don't like to fight, I will do that thing to avoid us fighting and I guess that conflict that was ideally supposed to show up won't be there any longer.

If only we knew or understood how our patterners are feeling then we would always do our best not to make them sad because we will be putting them in our shoes and saying to ourselves what if this was me would I have loved such to be done to me?

So putting yourself in the shoes of others and understanding how they will feel will help eliminate conflict. We could be staying happily and healthy with those around us.

What can we do to control our anger during an argument?

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During an argument, the best way to control your anger is to keep quiet and just keep listening. I suggest you even look for something and do it during an argument so that you don't get disturbed by the things your neighbor is saying. This is the best way you can control your anger.

Once you are focused on doing another thing, the person you are arguing with will talk and talk and when he is tired, you will notice that he will just avoid you completely because he won't get any response to keep him pushing.

So just don't speak back during an argument. Just always avoid the person and allow him or her to continue talking alone. Your anger will reduce because the person too will get tired since there is no response coming from your end.

I want to invite @jasminemary, @dave-hanny, and @vickyson to join the contest also.