ENGAGEMENT, HOW SHOULD IT BE.
What is Engagement in a relationship? |
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Engagement in a relationship is a period of marriage proposal acceptance and the marriage itself. That is when a man proposed to a woman, the waiting period before the marriage proper is performed. This is very necessary because they are from different family backgrounds, different experience, training and exposure. They need to understudy each other or get to know themselves more to ascertain if they will be compatible. Being engaged does not mean to live together as husband and wife when the bride price has not been paid yet.
At what age should a guy or lady be engaged? |
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Engagement in my personal view should be done from 20 years and above. Marriage is not for children but for matured minds and I think a man or woman of 20 years is matured enough to get married and can be engaged to prepare for marriage.
What are the things you consider in a person before engaging or accepting engagement? |
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The things to consider in a person before engagement or accepting engagement depends on individual needs for marriage. Different people have what they want from their spouses; how they should look i.e their physical appearance, height, complexion financial capacity. Some want partners that are very rich others think they can start a life somewhere with their partners. Some are looking for God-fearing partner while others could say all I want is a spouse who loves me and so on.
I will advise that above all our desires and wants we should consider a partner that is in accordance with the perfect will of God. My reasons are based on the scriptures that says: "The gift of the Lord maketh rich and added no sorrow" Prov. 10:22. If you are with God's perfect will spouse, other things will fall into place. Even when he or she is the will of God for you it is needful to get engaged before marriage. It is not good to rush into marriage without knowing your partner. Broken engagement is better than broken marriage.
How long is right for engagement before marriage? |
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The duration of engagement varies depending on individuals. There is no specific time for people to be engaged before marriage. There are some factors that could make engagement to last longer than expected and one of such factors could be money.
Lack of money to proceed to the main marriage could delay engagement.
Some men wants their partners to become pregnant before they could proceed to the marriage itself.
For me the least an engagement should last is 3months while it should not be longer than 6months. These periods are enough time to get to know things about each other and to get along.
Are there things that can change someone's mind after engagement? |
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There are so many things that can change someone's mind after engagement. Many people use to hide a lot of things and truth from their partners before marriage. If you are patient in the engagement period, you will get to know a lot of truth about the person. You can even uncover some that he or she may have wanted to hide from you and you could have a better chance to make a good decision for your self either to continue with the marriage or discontinue. Engagement period is also a time to use to pray together about so many things that both of you do not want in the marriage. It is time to talk things out to share your likes and dislikes to each other to see if both of you can tolerate and understand each other. Factors that can change someone's mind are:
- Lies
- Uncovered truth
- Lack of tolerance
- Lack of understanding
- Lack of love
- Avoidance of wrong family trend
- Inability to conceive
- Lack of money etc.
Is engagement a guarantee for marriage. |
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Engagement is not a guarantee for marriage as there have been many broken engagements and many marriages have hold without engagements. For me engagement should not be loud it should be moderate until the main marriage celebration.
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Very interesting hmmm. You have opened my eyes to know more about engagement. I wish you good luck dear friend.
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Nice advice, engagement should not be loud untill the main marriage. I think a see some reasons with you here. Anyways I wish you Goodluck.
There are so many things that can change some one mine as you said especially the lieing and uncovered truth aspect is always annoying, that one alone can destroy the love and trust you have for your spouse. Thanks for sharing.
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I completely agree with you that rushing into marriage without truly knowing your partner can be a risky and potentially regretful decision. Taking the time to understand each other's values, goals, and personalities can go a long way in building a strong foundation for a healthy and long-lasting relationship.
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