My personal perspective about courtship
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What is your understanding about the word courtship? |
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A courtship is simple when potential partners spend quality and romantic time together to know each other before marriage. Although courtship varies from culture to culture, from couple to couple and from family, so we have different people who may practice different activities during this period.
Some courtship activities include: going on dates, gift-giving, meeting each other's families, dancing, eating together, traveling together, working out some projects together, and wearing special outfits.
The verb form of courtship is courting and so courting is a laid down process for couple to know themselves and any particular activities they might do together as part of this process.
During courtship a lot of things are learned, partners use this this opportunity to learn themselves. There would be time to share past stories which most people don't like sharing especially when their past is very ugly, well it's a choice, but in courtship partners are supposed to learn each other well as it is a platform set for that.
How can people in courtship maintain a good relationship that can lead to marriage? |
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• Open minded Communication: In courtship, partners are supposed to communicate freely because no one owes anyone. Communicate freely with your partner, it doesn't matter the topic, but free and open-minded communication helps to know each other better.
• Quality time: This helps partners to also know themselves. Spending time in understanding each other's body languages is very important. Getting to know what each other wish to be helped and what they think about a particular thing is achieved in having quality time.
• Practice forgiveness: Since courtship is a platform of learning, I think it serves right for forgiveness to be in place. Practicing forgiveness helps you be a better person when in marriage.
• Support each other's dream: In courtship, partners should support each other's dreams and aspirations. It's not fair to stop a woman of her dreams just because she has to stay home to take care of the house, everyone should have access to their dreams and get support from their partners.
Are there things to be hidden during courtship? If yes what are they. If No back your answers with your reasons |
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For me, nothing should be hidden during courtship, although people have their dirty and ugly past that they don't wish to share with their partners that is because they are afraid of being hurt at the end. Most of them are afraid their partners would leave them or use it against them in future.
I believe in being open with each other in courtship, if the person likes you, then they won't judge you, they would put whatever they heard behind them and move on, but if they don't love you, they use it against you.
Being as open as the air makes you transparent and the real you. I believe in letting out everything in courtship.
Do you think there's time frame in courtship? Explain |
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No, there's no time frame in any courtship, the important thing is making the best out of it. It doesn't matter how long or short a courtship last, what matters is the end point.
Understanding each other and be ready to take it to the next level is the most important thing. When partners put time frame in mind while in courtship, it ends up rough, and it leads to pressure which is not a good one in any courtship.
Is courtship a guarantee for successful marriage |
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Courtship is not a guarantee for successful marriage because it's only a bedrock or root to getting into marriage. Courtship is like a school where things are learned and unlearned and not a guarantee for any marriage.
Going into courtship with the intentions of getting married at the end is wrong because it might not last forever. Learning the basis is very important and even though it doesn't lead to marriage, you gain some knowledge on how to handle the next one.
Some people don't even court but they end up in a successful marriage, so that is to say that courtship is not a guarantee for marriage.
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You've just stated a clear fact and this applies to all those aspiring to go into such. Getting to know each other better and also stating your intentions earlier will help the relating partner know his or her stand to avoid heartbreak. This is practical in the sense that it would be unfair if you court someone for 9 good months and then express your negative intentions of not liking the person. It's what you should have done earlier during the courtship and not playing along for 8 months and later came to say something else. Thanks for sharing.
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You are absolutely right about everything you have said, in today's world where we see many things happen courtship is not a guarantee to marriage it is a period of time where a couple get to know each other and know their partners do's and don't. I personally think that all that you have said is absolutely correct and I wish you all the best in the contest